Ayisiyoyona nto yokuziphatha ehlabathini, kuba ukuba uyekile ukuthanda umntu, kungcono ukuba unyanisekile kwaye umxelele. Kodwa, ukuba awufuni ukwahlula iimvakalelo zakhe okanye woyike indlela aza kusabela ngayo, unokumenza ahlukane nawe. Mhlawumbi sele uyizamile, kodwa khange ukwazi ukuyenza, inencasa embi.
Kulungile ukuziva ulahlekile kancinci kwaye ubuze lonke ukhetho kolu lwalamano-silapha ukukunceda uqaphele ukuba ayinguye lowo ngaphandle kwakhe. Ukuba uhlala ungoyena mntu ukuba ubaleke okanye ungazange wayazi indlela yokuvalelisa, ukuphuma kubudlelwane obutsha akunakuba lula. Ukuba uyekile ukumamela kuwe kwaye akafuni nokuva malunga nombono wokwahlukana, lixesha lokuba umbonise zonke izizathu zokuba kutheni kungcono kungabikho kunye, kodwa njani?
Musa ukuba ngumntwana
Kulungile ukuba kubi ekuqhekekeni, kodwa akulunganga ukumenza azive enamaqhinga amancinci okumenza ukuba akuthiye kwaye amnyanzele ukuba ahlukane. Bonke ubudlelwane buqu buqu kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba wenze isigqibo sokumenza aqonde ukuba awungomntu ulungileyo kuye, kodwa akukho sizathu sokuba ukhohlakele kwaye umbi umntu. Ungcono kunoko.
Yabelana ngezizathu zakho kunye namaphupha
Ngaba nobabini nihluke kakhulu? EFEZEKILEYO. Thetha ngakumbi ngawe: yabelana ngawo onke amaphupha akho, inkuthazo, amathemba omsebenzi, yintoni eya kumenza abone ukuba kutheni na wahlukile nje kwaye kutheni ubudlelwane bungazukusebenza. Ngale ndlela, awuzukunyaniseka ngakumbi kuye (endaweni yokumenza ahlupheke ngokwenza amaqhinga amancinci), kodwa unokumenza axhase umbono wokuqhekeka.
Sukoyika ukumazisa ukuba kweli nqanaba lobomi, kufuneka ixesha ngokwakho ukuze ufumane izinto okanye ngokulula ukuba ukhetha ukuba wedwa ngaphandle kweqabane.
Ukubeka phambili
Mxelele izinto ezibalulekileyo kuwe. Ukuba uthathe isigqibo kuba uziva ngathi ukwindawo eyahlukileyo ebomini kwaye unezinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi ngoku, kufuneka asibone kwaye asazi. Ikholeji, umsebenzi omtsha, usapho lwakho okanye ngokwakho… kukho izinto ezingapheliyo onokuthi ugxile kuzo kwaye uya kukhetha ukugxila kule ngongoma. Ukuba uyacaphuka, chaza ngokuzolileyo ukuba ngoku, ezi zinto zibaluleke ngaphezu kobusuku bebhanyabhanya kunye.
Yamkele inyani
Nokuba ubuqinisekile nge-100% xa ucinga ukuba nobabini nibhetele bhetele, xa enokwahlukana nawe kungonzakalisa kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo ngendlela efanayo. Ingcebiso kukucinga malunga nokwahlukana okulandelayo kwaye uqale ukulungiselela ngengqondo ... Kuba xa usophuka, yonke into iyakutshintsha ngonaphakade phakathi kwakho.
Ngokubanzi: Thembeka ngakumbi!
Onke la manyathelo ahambelana nokunyaniseka ngakumbi, kokubini kuye nakuwe. Ngalo lonke eli xesha, usenokuba ucinga ukuba ingasebenza le nto, kodwa wakube ufumene ukuba uhamba ngendlela engeyiyo, kunokuba lula ukuba uphazamise kwaye unqwenele ukuyenza ngokukhawuleza.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukunyaniseka, kuba wakube uthathe isigqibo sokuphelisa olu lwalamano, awuyi kuziva ungalunganga ngokuziphatha okanye isigqibo sabo ...