Alithandabuzeki elokuba uthando yimvakalelo ekhethekileyo nemangalisayo. Ukuyonwabela kuyo yonke inzaliseko yayo, kubalulekile ukuseka uluhlu lwemida kwaye ungathwalwa nangaliphi na ixesha ngokuthanda.
Ukubonakala kokugqithiswa kuyingozi ekubeni inokuphelisa ubudlelwane ngokwalo. Ungalibali ukuba umgca owahlula uthando kwi-obsession phantse ungabikho, ngoko ke ingozi yekamva elihle lobudlelwane. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha ngomahluko phakathi kothando nokuthanda izinto ezininzi gqitha.
uthando kunye nokukhathazeka
- Ukuthabatheka yinto engaphaya koko kugqalwa njengothando. Oku kuziphatha kuyingozi ngokwenene kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kubangela ukungathembani okunjalo kangangokuba kunokuphelisa.
- Ukuthabatheka kuphelisa ubudlelwane ngendlela yokuba yenze imeko-bume inganyamezeleki. Elinye lamaqela lisebenzisa ulawulo olupheleleyo kubomi besibini kwaye le yinto engenakho kwaye akufanelekanga ukuba inyanyezelwe. Yonke into ijikeleza isibini kwaye yonke enye into ingena ngasemva.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukuthabatheka kubangelwa kukungazithembi. Inxalenye obsessive uhlupheka isithuba enkulu ebomini bakhe kwaye ugcwalisa umbulelo wakhe kulawulo alusebenzisayo kwiqabane lakhe.
- Uthando kwesi sibini lubaluleke kakhulu kuba lunika inkululeko kunye nentlonipho, into ebonakalayo ngokungabikho kwayo kwi-obsession. Isibini simele sifune ukuphila kakuhle nokuzibophelela kwaye uye kude kakhulu ekuziphatheni okugqithisileyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
Ukubaluleka kokumisela imida kwimiqobo
- Xa kuziwa ekupheliseni ukuziphatha okugqithisileyo kubalulekile ukuba inxalenye ehluphekayo iyiqonde. Isinyathelo sesibini kukukhulula amatyathanga kwaye uvumele isibini sikhululeke kwaye singenalo naluphi na uhlobo lolawulo.
- Into elandelayo yokunqoba ukunyanzeliswa okunjalo kukukwazi ukudiliza olo donga kunye ukwazi ukonwabela ngokupheleleyo neqabane lakho. Kubalulekile ukwazi indlela yokuthatha uxanduva kwiinyani kunye nendlela yokulawula iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ukuze ukuziphatha okunjalo kungenzeki kwakhona kubudlelwane.
- Uvelwano yenye inkalo emele iqwalaselwe xa ubeka imida ekuziphatheni ngokugqithiseleyo. Ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zesi sibini kunceda ukuqonda uthando ngendlela enempilo kwaye ugweme ukuba nesimo sengqondo esilawulayo esinokutshabalalisa ibhondi eyenziwe.
- Ukungazithembi kunye nokuzithemba kudla ngokukhokelela ekuziphatheni okunjalo kwiqabane. Awunako ukuvumela ukungakhuseleki okuthile kunye namathandabuzo xa kufikwa kubudlelwane nomnye umntu. Ukuthembana nokhuseleko zibalulekile xa kufikwa ekonwabeleni lowo umthandayo ngendlela epheleleyo nesempilweni.
- Ukuba umntu akakwazi ukushiya ngasemva ukuthanda kwakhe kunye neqabane lakhe, kuya kuba lula ukuya kwingcali ukunyanga le ngxaki. Unyango olufanelekileyo lunokunyanga olo lawulo kwaye wenze umntu akwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokupheleleyo.