Unxibelelwano kunye nencoko zibalulekile xa uthetha ngesibini okanye ubudlelwane. Kwimeko yokuba neentlobano zesini nomntu omthandayo, unxibelelwano olukhankanywe ngasentla lubaluleke ngakumbi. Oku kwaziwa njengokuzithethelela ngokwesondo kwaye kuzisa izinto ezininzi ezilungileyo kubudlelwane.
Nangona abantu abaninzi bekhetha ukutsiba eli nyathelo, Sichaza ukubaluleka kokuqinisekiswa ngokwesondo kwikamva elihle lesi sibini.
Yintoni ukuqinisekiswa ngokwesondo
Kufuneka siqale ngokubonisa ukuba ukuzithemba luhlobo lonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu kwaye lubonakala ngokubonisa intlonipho enkulu kubo bobabini abantu. Enkosi ngokuzithemba okunjalo, umntu uyakwazi ukuchaza indlela aziva ngayo kunye nento ayifunayo ngaphandle kokuthandabuza nokuhlonipha elinye iqela.
Ukuba ithathwa kwinqwelomoya yesondo, inxalenye nganye ithetha into abayicingayo kwaye oku kwenza ixesha lokuba nobudlelwane obusondeleyo nesibini, ube ngoyena unomvuzo kwaye utyebisa ngeendlela zonke.
Kutheni ukuzithethelela ngokwesondo kulungile kwesi sibini
- Ingongoma yokuqala emele ibalaseliswe sisibakala sokuba ukuzithethelela okunjalo kunceda ekubekeni uthotho lwemida xa kufikelelwa kwiintlobano zesini. Akukho mntu unokunyanzelwa ukuba enze into angayifuniyo okanye angayifuniyo. Ukuzithethelela ngokwesondo kuvumela umntu ngamnye ukuba amkele uthotho lwezenzo zesini kwaye abe nako ukwala ngokukhululekileyo abo angabafuniyo.
- Enye into elungileyo yokuqinisekisa ngokwesondo kukuba, enkosi kuyo, Ukwabelana ngesondo kwenziwa kube mnandi ngakumbi. Ukuba nonxibelelwano oluthe ngqo noluvulelekileyo lukuvumela ukuba ukonwabele ukwabelana ngesondo neqabane lakho ngakumbi. Uninzi lweengxaki zezibini zanamhlanje zibangelwa kukuba akukho nxibelelwano luhle phakathi kwabo, olubonakaliswa ngendlela engafanelekanga ebhedini.
- Ukuzithemba ngokwesondo kukuvumela ukuba uqalise kwaye uzame izinto ezintsha kubudlelwane bezesondo, into etyebisa kakhulu kubudlelwane ngokwalo. Akufanele uwele kwindlela yesiqhelo, ekubeni oku kubangela isithukuthezi esithile esichaphazela kakubi isibini.
Indlela yokusebenzisa ukuzithethelela ngesondo
Nangona kunokubonakala ngathi kuntsonkothile kwithiyori, inyani kukuba akunzima kangako ukusebenzisa le ndlela yokuqinisekisa ngokwesondo kwesi sibini:
- Mntu ngamnye unenkululeko yokuzikhethela into ayifunayo nangayifuniyo. Ukuba neqabane okanye ukuntywiliselwa kubudlelwane ayisosizathu sokungahoyi eli lungelo.
- Ukuzithethelela ngokwesondo kunokuphunyezwa, ukuba nje umntu enokhuseleko olulungileyo kunye nentembelo kumntu wakhe. Ukungazithembi lutshaba oluthe ngqo lokuzithethelela ngokwesondo.
- Kufuneka sibeke ecaleni iinkolelo zobuxoki kunye ne-taboos malunga nesondo kunye bonisa ngokuphandle ezinye phambi kwesibini.
- Ukuziqhelanisa kubalulekile kwaye kungundoqo xa kuziwa ekusebenziseni ukuzithemba ngokwesondo kunye neqabane lakho. Ekuqaleni kunokuba nzima, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha izinto ziya kuba ngcono.