Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubona namhlanje ukuba bangaphi abantu abaxhomekeke kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo kumaqabane abo. Nangona kwezi meko lelinye lamaqela afuna ukuba omnye umntu azive elungile kwaye anike intsingiselo yobomi bakhe, Kusenokubakho iimeko zokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwisibini.
Kwi-codependency enjalo, omnye wamaqela uyonwabile kuphela xa esecaleni komlingane wakhe kwaye elinye iqela likwaxhomekeke kukuxhomekeka kweqabane lakhe. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha kancinci malunga nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwisibini kunye neempawu zayo.
Ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwesi sibini
Ngendlela ecacileyo nelula, kunokuthiwa kwi-codependency, umntu oxhomekeke kuye ufuna iqabane lakhe ukuze ajabule, kwaye umntu oxhomekeke kwi-codependent uhlala kuphela ukufezekisa inhlalakahle kunye nolonwabo lomlingane wakhe. Isitshixo ukwenzela ukuba kungabikho ukuxhomekeka okunjalo kukuba umntu oxhomekeke kwi-codependent wenza izenzo ezahlukeneyo ngendlela ebonisa ukuzithoba ngokupheleleyo kwaye kungekhona ukuze ondle ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo okukhoyo. I-Codependency iphelela ekutshabalaliseni ubudlelwane ngokwayo, ebangela ukuba akukho nalinye lamaqela onwabe ngaphakathi.
Iimpawu ezicacileyo zokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo kwesi sibini
Kukho inani leempawu okanye iimpawu ezicacileyo, ebonisa ukuba kubudlelwane besibini kukho ukuxhomekeka okuthile ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwamaqela:
Ukungazithembi
Abantu abaxhomekeke kubo badla ngokungazithembi nokuzithemba. Bazama ukuvala oku kungabikho ngokunceda umntu oxhomekeke kuye ukuba onwabe.
ulawulo lwesibini
Ukuziva uluncedo kwaye uxabisekile ebomini, umntu ozimeleyo ulawula iqabane lakhe, ukuze aqhubeke nokuziphatha okuthile okuxhomekeke kumntu wakhe. Ulawulo olusetyenziswa kwiqabane lunenjongo yokujongela phantsi ukuzithemba kwabo ukuze ngale ndlela bahlale bexhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kwinqanaba leemvakalelo.
Uloyiko lokuzimela kwesi sibini
Uloyiko olukhulu luveliswa yinto yokuba isibini siqonda ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo abahluphekayo kwaye ufuna ukuzimela ngakumbi kubudlelwane.
iingcinga ezibambekayo
Ngokuhamba kwexesha, umntu oxhomekeke kuye uba liqabane lakhe. Ucinga ukuba eyona njongo yakhe ebomini kukugcina omnye umntu exhomekeke ngokweemvakalelo.
Izinyeliso eziqhubekayo kwisibini
Xa iqabane elixhomekeke kuye lingenzi ngokwendlela emiselweyo, umntu oxhomekeke kuyo ubeka ityala ngokumngcikiva ngenjongo yokumenza azive ebuhlungu. Oku kujonge ukugcina ukuxhomekeka kuyinyani.
Uncedo lwengqondo kwi-codependency yeemvakalelo
Xa kuziwa ekusombululeni ingxaki enjalo, kubalulekile ukuba isibini sisonke sizibeke ezandleni zesazi sengqondo esihle. Olona nyango lusebenzayo ngokuchasene nokuxhomekeka kukuziphatha kwengqondo. Olu nyango lufuna uluhlu lweenjongo ezicace kakhulu:
- Yomeleza ukuzithemba nokuzithemba kuwo omabini amalungu esi sibini.
- Unxibelelwano phakathi kwesibini kunye ukuvakalisa iimvakalelo ezahlukeneyo ngaphandle koloyiko.
- Khuthaza ukuzimela nokuzimela kwisibini
- yomeleza i ukulawula iimvakalelo.
- Loyisa uloyiko okanye uloyiko ukungabi naqabane.
Ngamafutshane, ukuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo ngelishwa kuxhaphake kakhulu kunokuba abantu banokucinga. Kwimeko enjalo kubalulekile ukubaleka kwityhefu enjalo kwaye uhlale ukhetha ubudlelwane obuphilileyo. Ukutyhubela iminyaka, ukuxhomekeka kukhankanywe ngasentla kugqiba ukutshabalalisa isibini kwaye konakalise kakhulu imeko yeemvakalelo zabo bobabini ababandakanyekayo.