Abantu abadala bachitha iminyaka besebenzisa indlu yangasese, ke siyalibala ukuba kunzima kangakanani emntwaneni. Kumntwana ochithe ubomi bakhe bonke amanabukeni ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, eqonda isidingo sakhe sokuyisusa kufuna ingqalelo enkulu kunye nokusebenza nzima. Ukuhlala ulawula lo mnqweno de bafike kwigumbi lokuhlambela yeyona nto ifezekileyo.
Abanye abantwana bayakhuthazeka ukuba bayazi kakuhle le nto kuba abayithandi imvakalelo yokuba manzi okanye ukungcola kwi-diaper. Abanye bakhuthazwa yimfuno yabo yokulawula umnqweno wabo wokufana nabantwana abadala. Abanye bashukunyiswa ngumnqweno wabo wokuxelisa abazali babo, ababathandayo nabafuna ukubakopa.
Kuba bonke abantwana bayalazi eli nyathelo lokukhula, kungekudala okanye kamva, sinokucinga ngoku njengokufunda kwendalo. Njengako konke ukufunda, umntwana kufuneka akulungele ukufunda kwaye aqhubele phambili ngesantya sakhe, kodwa abazali banokubonelela ngenkuthazo kwaye babeke iimeko zokunceda umntwana wabo aphumelele.
Fundisa ukuya kwindlu yangasese, ngaphandle kokohlwaywa!
Xa ufundisa umntwana ukuba aye kwindlu yangasese, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba ngumnqweno wendalo wokukhula kunye nokufezekiswa komntwana wakho. Ngelixa imivuzo inokusebenza ekukhuthazeni umntwana owoyikayo ukuthatha eli thuba likhulu, isohlwayo sonyusa uloyiko lomntwana. Isohlwayo senza ukuba kube nzima umntwana ulawula umzimba wakhe kuba uloyiko luyawavala amaziko okufunda engqondo.
Ngapha koko, isohlwayo siphelisa ubudlelwane nomzali kwaye ngaloo ndlela sisusa umnqweno womntwana wokulandela umzekelo womzali, osisiseko sabo sokwenza umsebenzi onzima woqeqesho lwendlu yangasese. Xa sisohlwaya umntwana osilelayo ukufunda ukusebenzisa imbiza, uziva ehlazekile, eneentloni, kwaye efuna ukunikezela. Bendingazi ukuba ndenze njani, kwaye ngoku kuvakala ngathi kukusilela. Uziva ukhathazekile kwaye unomsindo kuba awuqondi ukuba kutheni yonke le nto isenzeka. Zonke ezi mvakalelo zixakekileyo zenza ukuba umntwana abe neengozi ezininzi kunye nokubaleka.
Ukuba uyohlwaya uya kuba nokuvuza okuninzi
Ukuba wohlwaya umntwana wakho ngokuvuza, oku kuya kuhlala kumenza abe nokuvuza okungaphezulu. Eyona nto inokwenzeka kukuba oku kuba umntwana eyeka ukubona indlu yangasese njengethuba lokulawula, nelifunwa ngabo bonke abantwana, kwaye aqale ukulibona njengomthombo woxinzelelo. Siyazi ukuba uxinzelelo lubangela ukuba abantwana baphinde babuye, kwaye isohlwayo luxinzelelo olukhulu.
Uqeqesho lwe potty lelona xesha kubomi bomntwana xa besesichengeni sokuphathwa gadalala. Kungenxa yokuba isohlwayo asisebenzi. Ngokwenyani yenza kube nzima emntwaneni ukulawula ukuvuza. Utata uyacaphuka ngakumbi kwaye isohlwayo siba qatha. Imeko iphuma kulawulo kwaye iingxaki zeemvakalelo ziya zisiba mandundu. Ukohlwaya umntwana ngenxa yokuvuza akusoze ukukhawulezise ukufunda, ngokuchaseneyo, kwaye ngaphezulu koko, uya konakalisa ubudlelwane nomntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho ufuna ukunconywa, uthando kunye nesingqisho ukuze afunde ukusebenzisa imbiza… kwaye kuya kuba lula kunokuba ucinga!