Kubantu abaninzi, amadoda okanye abafazi, ukukopela luphawu lokugqibela lokungahloniphi kunye nezizathu ezikhawulezayo zokuphelisa ubudlelwane. Ilungile lo nto. Xa uqhatha iqabane lakho, waphula intembeko engcwele eye yakhiwe ngaphakathi kubudlelwane bakho bothando. Ukuthembana akulula ukwakha yaye akuzi lula. Ikhula kuphela emva kokuba iqela ngalinye lizibonakalise ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba lithembekile kwaye lithembekile.
Ukungathembeki kuthetha ukuba awubuxabisi ubuhlobo bakho okanye ixesha elityalwe kulo. Nangona kunjalo, zonke ukungathembeki azinayo impembelelo efanayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuziva utyumke intliziyo xa ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho liye labandakanyeka kumcimbi womzimba emva kwakho. Nabani na angayenza... Ngaphandle kweengozi zempilo ezicacileyo, uya kuziva ungcatshiwe kwaye uzibuze ukuba kutheni ekwenzile oko.
Nangona ukufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho alithembekanga ngokweemvakalelo kuwe kusenokuba kukungathembeki kwenyama kwabaninzi. Imicimbi yenyama ijongana nomzimba, ngelixa imicimbi yeemvakalelo ijongana nentliziyo. Funda ukuze ufumanise ukuba kutheni oko kuyingozi ngakumbi.
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kwenzeka xa umntu eshiya ulwalamano lwabo ukuze anelise iimfuno zabo zeemvakalelo. Esikhundleni sokuthembela kwiqabane labo kule nkxaso, baphendukela kumhlobo osondeleyo, umntu osebenza naye, okanye umntu ongamaziyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo asiyonto ijongwa ngumntu. Ikhula ngokwemvelo. Umntu unokuziva engahoywanga okanye eyedwa, ngoko baya kutsalela ngokwemvelo kumntu onikela ingqalelo kubo.
Ekuqaleni, ungadibanisa kwizinto ozithandayo okanye izinto ozithandayo. Oku kukhokelela kwiifowuni kunye nemiyalezo kuzo zonke iiyure zosuku. Ngokuhamba kwexesha, banokude baphuhlise ulwimi lwabo xa bencokola ngeziqhulo. Ngendlela enye, Baye baba likhoboka lendlela omnye umntu abenza bazive ngayo, kangangokuba iqabane labo langoku alisekho kulo msebenzi.
Ukungathembeki ngokweemvakalelo kuthetha injongo
Akukho mntu ufuna ukukhohliswa, ngokucacileyo, kodwa ukuphaphatheka kube kanye kunokugxothwa njengokungaphumeleli okwethutyana ekugwebeni okanye umzuzwana wobuthathaka. Imiba yeemvakalelo ibandakanya injongo. Awungekhe uthande umntu ngempazamo ngendlela efanayo onokuthi unxile ngayo, kwaye "ngengozi" ukulala nomntu odibene naye ebharini.
Iibhondi zeemvakalelo zikhula ngokuhamba kwexesha, ngezigaba. Ekuqaleni usenokungaqondi ukuba uqubha kwindawo eyingozi, kodwa njengoko i-adventure yeemvakalelo iqhubeka, akunakwenzeka ukukhanyela okwenzekayo. Ukubandakanyeka kumcimbi weemvakalelo uthi, nangona isazela sakho sikuxelela ukuba mhlawumbi unamathele kakhulu, ukhetha ukwanelisa iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo kwaye uze ucinge ngeqabane lakho.
Ngoko ke, ngokuzithandela uye wagqiba ekubeni uqhubele phambili kwaye uphuhlise ubudlelwane besibini. Oku kusenokungabonakali njengento enkulu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo kunjalo. Imiba yeemvakalelo ayiqhutywa yinkanuko, kodwa yimvakalelo neemvakalelo.
Umsa owawugcinelwe iqabane lakho ngoku unikelwa kulo mntu mtsha. Ngaloo ndlela, ngoku uvumela eli qela lesithathu ukuba lizalisekise indima ebomini bakho ebekufanele ukuba ilawulwa kuphela kwiqabane lakho.