Xa abantwana bephakathi kweminyaka emi-2 ukuya kwe-3 ubudala, ukukhula kwabo kukhulu kakhulu. Baqala ukuxelisa, ukulandela imiyalelo elula, ukuhamba ngakumbi nangakumbi, ukuthetha ngakumbi nokuqonda ngcono iimvakalelo zabo nezabanye. Ukuba unayo encinci yale minyaka, ke licebo elihle ukuba uqwalasele indlela onokumnceda ngayo ukuphucula ukukhula kwakhe.
Mncede ekukhuleni kwakhe
Nazi ezinye zezinto ezilula onokuzenza ukunceda umntwana wakho ukuba akhule kweli xesha lobudala:
- Nika umntwana wakho ithuba lokudlala nabanye: Ukudlala yindlela entle yokuba umntwana wakho azenzele abahlobo kwaye afunde ukuba kunye nabanye abantwana. Kodwa musa ukulindela ukwabelana kunye nokutshintshana okwangoku: abantwana abancinci bacinga ukuba yonke into yeyabo.
- Ukhuthaza izakhono zemihla ngemihla njengokusebenzisa icephe nokunxiba izihlangu. Ezi zakhono zibandakanya intshukumo encinci kunye enkulu yemisipha, kunye nokukwazi komntwana wakho ukucinga malunga noko akwenzayo.
- Thetha nonyana wakho. Ukuthiya igama nokuthetha ngezinto zemihla ngemihla (amalungu omzimba, iithoyi, nezinto zasendlini ezinje ngeepuni okanye izitulo) kunceda ekuphuhliseni izakhono zolwimi lomntwana wakho. Kule minyaka, ungafundisa umntwana wakho ukuba "isitulo" sinokuba "sisihlalo esikhulu," "isitulo esibomvu," okanye "isitulo esikhulu esibomvu."
- Yenza ingxoxo kwincoko yomntwana wakho ngokumamela nokuphendula. Ukuba umntwana wakho uthi 'Ubisi lukamama', angaphendula ngokuthi 'Ngaba ufuna umama akuphathele ubisi?' Oku kukwenza ukuba umntwana wakho azive exabisekile kwaye ethandwa.
- Mfundele: Ungayikhuthaza intetho kunye nengcinga yomntwana wakho ngokufunda kunye, ubalise amabali, ucule iingoma, kwaye ufunde izicengcelezo zabantwana.
- Pheka kancinci nomntwana wakho: Oku kukunceda ukuba ube nomdla kukutya okusempilweni, ufunde amagama amatsha, kwaye uqalise ukuziqhelanisa neengcinga zezibalo ezinje 'ngesiqingatha', '1 ithisipuni' okanye 'imizuzu engama-30'. Unganika umntwana wakho imisebenzi elula yokupheka, enje ngokwenza isaladi okanye ukwenza iisendwitshi.
- Xa umntwana wakho efunda isakhono esitsha, bhiyozela impumelelo yakhe ngokudumisa okuninzi kunye nengqwalaselo elungileyo. Ikwangumbono olungileyo ukunceda kunye nokukhuthaza umntwana wakho ukuba aqhubeke esenza izinto abazifundileyo, nokuba ezo zinto zinzima.
Ukukhulisa abantwana abancinci kwiminyaka emi-2-3
Njengomzali, uhlala ufunda. Kulungile ukuba uzithembe kwinto oyaziyo. Kwaye kulungile ukuba uvume ukuba awazi nto kwaye ubuze imibuzo okanye ufumane uncedo. Xa ujolise kukhathalelo lomntwana, ungalibala okanye uphelelwe lixesha lokuzikhathalela. Kodwa ukuzikhathalela ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokwasengqondweni nangokweemvakalelo kuya kumnceda umntwana wakho akhule kwaye aphumelele.
Ngamanye amaxesha ungaziva udimazekile, ukhathazekile, okanye ukhathazekile Kulungile ukuthatha ixesha ude uzive uzolile. Beka umntwana wakho kwindawo ekhuselekileyo okanye ucele omnye umntu ukuba amkhathalele okwethutyana. Zama ukuya kwelinye igumbi uthathe umoya ophefumlayo, okanye biza ilungu losapho okanye umhlobo ukuba athethe.
Ungaze ushukumise umntwana omncinci. Ingabangela ukopha ngaphakathi kwengqondo kwaye mhlawumbi nomonakalo osisigxina wengqondo. Kulungile ukucela uncedo. Ukuba uziva ukhululekile kwiimfuno zokunyamekela umntwana wakho omncinci, cela uncedo lobuchwephesha.