Uyazikhumbula izandi zemood? Kwiminyaka ethile edlulileyo babedume kakhulu, la makhonkco atshintshe umbala ngokuxhomekeke kwimo onayo (nangona enyanisweni batshintshe umbala kuphela ngokuxhomekeke kubushushu bomzimba obenawo ngamaxesha ahlukeneyo). Kodwa masithi 'ungaxelela' iimood zabantu ngokujonga umbala.
Kodwa imood ayisiyonto iringi inokumisela ngokwenyani, kwaye ayingomdlalo olula ukudlala. Inokukhathaza kakhulu xa uthandana kwaye akukho lula ukujongana nayo. Ukuba neqabane xa unemoya kufana nokuhamba kwindawo enezigcayiseli. Ukuba awazi ukuba uza kujongana njani neqabane lakho ngamanye amaxesha kodwa uyamthanda kwaye awufuni kumshiya ngenxa yoko, ungaphoswa zimbono ezithile zokujongana nayo.
Chonga ukuba ikwimo embi okanye into efuna ingqalelo engakumbi
Kubalulekile ukuba umisele ukuba iqabane lakho likwimo yeemood kuphela okanye ukuba ufuna uncedo lweengcali. Ukutshintsha kwemo kunokubangelwa zizinto ezininzi. Kubalulekile ukumisela ukuba izizathu zibangelwa ziimeko ezithile okanye zibangelwa ziingxaki zempilo.
Jonga iqabane lakho kwaye ubone ukuba imeko yengqondo ihlala ixesha elingakanani kwaye inokuba mandundu kangakanani. Jonga ukuba iyabuchaphazela na ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla okanye yinto nje ekufanele ukuba kuthethwe ngayo ngaphandle kwenye into. Unokuxelela umlingane wakho ukuba abhale ijenali enamanqaku eemvakalelo zabo ukuvavanya ngokuhamba kwexesha ukuba bafuna ukuya kwingcali, ukuze naye afumanise.
Jonga iimvakalelo zakho
Njengoko ujonga iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho, jonga ezakho ngokunjalo. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba naziphi na kwezi mvakalelo okanye isimilo onokuthi ube negalelo kukungazinzi kweqabane lakho? Ngaba ukwixeshana apho wondla imo embi kunye nezinye iimpendulo ezingafanelekanga? Ngaba ikho into eninokuyenza ukuze nitshintshe engenabungozi kuni nobabini?
Khetha iimfazwe zakho
Ngamanye amaxesha imeko embi kukuziphatha okufuna ingqalelo yomnye umntu. Ayisiyondlela ifanelekileyo yokufumana ingqalelo kodwa yeyona ndlela ilula yokufumana. Xa oku kunjalo, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba kufanelekile ukungena edabini.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uqwalasele okubalulekileyo kwiqabane lakho nokuba alikho kuwe. Zithathele isigqibo sokuba ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ulwe okanye ukuba kungcono ukubekelwa ecaleni uxoxe uzolile ngelinye ixesha ulwalamano oluhle.
Kuko konke oku, kuya kubalulekile ukuba umisele umda kwiqabane lakho ngamaxesha otshintsho lwemood. Sukuvumela isimilo esibi, ukukhwaza okanye ukungabi nantlonelo. Ukuba iqabane lakho alazi ukuba maliziphathe njani okanye likuhloniphe, kuya kufuneka ke uvavanye ukuba kufanelekile ukuqhubekeka nobudlelwane okanye hayi.
Molo ndinguIsabel.
Ndineminyaka engama-50 ubudala kwaye kwiminyaka emithathu edlulileyo, ndaqala ubudlelwane bezothando kunye neqabane lam elineminyaka engama-47 u-Alberto. UyiNkosi entle kakhulu kwaye eluncedo esitratweni, kodwa ekhaya, ngakumbi kusasa, xa evuka, unotshintsho olomeleleyo lweemvakalelo ezimbi, ezihlawula nam. Yintoni egqithisile
Ukrwada kwaye uyandiphazamisa ngamaxesha amaninzi, kuba akandihloniphi. Zama ukundenzakalisa ngamagama angamampunge kunye nokuziphatha okubandayo kunye nokude. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuhamba kwexesha, uyatshintsha kwaye abe ngumntu onothando, osondeleyo nothando.
Kunzima kum ukubuthwala obu budlelwane kwaye ndicinga ukubushiya. Nceda undixelele into endinokuyenza.
Molo u-Isabel, olu hlobo lokuziphatha luyakukhathaza ebomini bakho ... kuya kufuneka uvavanye ukuba iyakuhlawulela na okanye akunjalo. Tyhila!
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