Ukudikwa liqabane lakho luphawu olucacileyo lokuba kukho into engalunganga kulwalamano. Zininzi izinto ezinokubangela ukuba isithukuthezi sivele kobu budlelwane. Ukusuka kwinto yokungabelani ngokuzonwabisa kwiingxaki zonxibelelwano ezahlukeneyo kwesi sibini.
Ukuba oku kuyenzeka kubalulekile ukukhangela izisombululo ezahlukeneyo, ukuze kuthintelwe ukuba loo nto iye ngakumbi kwaye ibeke emngciphekweni ubudlelwane.
Thetha nomnye umntu
Kwimeko apho uyavuma ukuba kukho ingxaki yokuba nesidima kunye nokukruquka, kubalulekile ukuba uhlale ecaleni komnye umntu nixoxe ngengxaki leyo. Akukho nto ihlaselayo njengoko oku kuya kwenza izinto zibe mandundu. Akukho mfuneko yokugxeka nabani na, ingxaki yeyabo bobabini kwaye ngengxoxo isisombululo sinokufunyanwa. Kubalulekile ukwenza iinzame kuzo zombini ezi zinto kwaye uzame ukuba loo nto ayiyi ngaphezulu. Kubalulekile ukufumana izisombululo ezivumela isibini ukuba siphume kwinkqubo yesiqhelo kunye nesoyolo.
Khumbula izinto ezintle
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uwele kwisiqhelo xa uhlala nomnye umntu ixesha elide. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule iminyaka yokuqala yobudlelwane kwaye wazi into ethandwa liqabane lakho. Unokuthabatha incwadi yokubhalela kwaye uqale ukubhala ezithandwayo zomnye umntu kwaye yintoni ekutsalele kubo xa udibana. Ngale ndlela unokuphelisa isithukuthezi kwaye ubuyele kwimeko yeminyaka yokuqala yobudlelwane.
Khangela izinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto ozithandayo enifana ngazo
Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zesimo sengqondo sobabini kwisibini, kukufumanisa ukuba izinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto ozithandayo zihluke ngokupheleleyo. Kungenzeka ukuba oku kungabonwa ekuqaleni, kuba ukuthandana kunye nomtsalane womzimba kuxhaphake ngakumbi. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kuyacetyiswa ukuba nihlale phantsi kunye nithethe ngezinto zokuzonwabisa ezahlukeneyo de ufumane into ekumanyanisayo. Kungaba kukubukela imovie kunye, ukuya kubethwa ngumoya, okanye ukuya kwibhar yeebhiya ezimbalwa. Into ebalulekileyo kukufumana into eninokuphinda niyenze kunye kwaye niphume kwi-monotony enokuthi isibini sibambeke kuyo.
Ukubaluleka kwendawo yakho
Kwiimeko ezininzi, isithukuthezi sibangelwa lixesha elininzi elichithwe neqabane. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba icandelo ngalinye lolwalamano linendawo yalo yokukwazi ukuzonwabisa kunye nokubaleka kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla. Akulunganga ukuchitha iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kunye neqabane lakho kuba oku kuphelisa ukonakalisa ubudlelwane. Kulungile ukuchitha ixesha elincinci ngemini nawe, nokuba kuyaphunywa ukubaleka okanye ukukhwela ibhayisekile okanye ukudibana nabahlobo ukuze usele. Esi sibini kufuneka siphefumle kwaye ukuze ubudlelwane bungapheli buphele.
I-Monotony kunye nesithukuthezi ziqhelekile kwizibini ezininzi zanamhlanje. Ngenxa yoku, kubalulekile ukuba kufunwe izisombululo kuzo zombini ezi zinto, Phambi kokuba ingxaki inyuke kwaye ihle ngokupheleleyo kubudlelwane.