Ukuba unochuku kumphathi wakho emsebenzini lo gama ungekatshati, kusalungile ukuba uqhubeke ngakumbi okanye ngaphantsi ngendlela efanayo obuya kwenza ngayo kumntu osebenza naye... Kodwa Kufuneka ugcine engqondweni ezinye izinto eziya kunceda yonke into ihambe ngcono.
Umbono wokusondela kumphathi wakho ngendlela yobuqu ngakumbi kukumema yena nabanye osebenza nabo ukuba bangenelele kuhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi olunje ngesidlo sangokuhlwa, umsitho, okanye mhlawumbi baye kwitheko le-cocktail. Okubalulekileyo kukuba ugxininisa indawo oya kuyo umhla kunye nenkampani yomntu wonke, ukuze ungaziva usoyika kwasekuqaleni.
Kuthekani ukuba uthi akakwazi?
Ukuba umphathi wakho uthe akakwazi ukuza, ngaba kufuneka ubeke uxinzelelo olungakumbi kuye ukuba ahambe? Ukuba umphathi wakho uyasala isimemo ngesizathu sokuba yinto enokuthi ihlehliswe ngokulula, kulungile ukubacela ukuba baphumle kwaye banyanzelise ukuba bakujoyine, ngamazwi akho. Ukuba usathi hayi kuloo nto, incoko yokulandelela ingaphezulu okanye ingaphantsi. Ukuba akakabonakalisi iimpawu ezibalulekileyo zomdla emva kokulandelela, yilahle inqanawa kuba akayi kumisa kwizibuko lakho.
Kuthekani ukuba abanye bafumanisa ukuba uyamthanda umphathi wakho?
Ungafuna ukuyigcina le mfihlo kude kube esinye isaziso. Andithethi ngokuqinisekileyo... Kungcono ukuba ungathethi ngayo nabani na omaziyo ukuba unokusasaza amarhe. Kwaye qaphela ukuba ungabonakali ngokucacileyo ukuba unomdla kumphathi wakho, kuba amahemuhemu kunye izimvo zinokuqala ngokukhawuleza kunokuba unokucinga.
Bazocinga ntoni abantu ngam xa befumanisa ukuba ndijola nomphathi wam?
Abantu baya kufumanisa ngokuqinisekileyo, kodwa hayi ngoko nangoko. Ekubeni umphathi wakho mhlawumbi uya kugxininisa, kungcono ukuyigcina iyimfihlo de izinto zibe nzulu. Xa ilizwi liphuma, iya kuba yintetho yeofisi ixesha elide, kodwa Ubuncinane ukuba nihlala kunye nizisindisa ngokugqithisileyo kokuphononongwa okunokwenzeka.
Ukuthandana nomntu osebenza naye kuyinto enzima ukujongana nayo, kodwa akusiyo into engaphandle kolawulo lwakho. Ukuba unomtsalane omkhulu kubo kodwa ungabonakali ukuba unomdla wabo, ungakhathazeki. Akukho mfuneko yokuba utshintshe imisebenzi, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba woyike ukuya emsebenzini yonke imihla ngenxa yeentloni. Ekugqibeleni, umnqweno wakho waloo mntu uya kuncipha, kwaye Uya kukwazi ukubuyela kwindlela yakho yesiqhelo kwaye akukho zingxaki ngenxa yale meko.
Cinga ukuba uthando alunakulawulwa kwaye kwizinto zentliziyo, akukho mntu unokulawula. Ukuba uziva ngathi uthandana nomphathi wakho, musa ukukhanyela, yamkele loo mvakalelo kuba iyinyani entliziyweni yakho. Kwimeko yokuba ayibuyiselwa, ngoko kuya kuba lixesha lokujonga iindlela zokumkhupha engqondweni yakho. ukuze uqhubeke uphila ubomi bakho ngeyona ndlela ilungileyo.