Intlonipho kufuneka ihlale ikhona kwiqabane kwaye awunakunyamezelana phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko uthetha kakubi komnye umntu kwaye ungamhloniphi rhoqo. Abantu abaninzi abayazi loo nto kodwa bathetha kakubi okanye ngendlela enoburharha luhlobo lokuxhatshazwa.
Ukuba ayinqunywanga ngexesha, ukuthetha kakubi kunokuba ngumkhwa kwaye uphele wonakalisa ngendlela yengqondo umntu ophethwe yiyo.
Ukuphathwa gadalala kwengqondo
Ukuqala ngokuthetha ngamagama amabi kunokubonakala ngathi yinto ethile, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha izinto ziya zisiba mbi kwaye zijike zibe kukuxhatshazwa ngazo zonke iileta. Ukuqhubeka kokungabikho kwembeko lelinye lamaqela kuphelisa ukujongela phantsi ukuzithemba komntu ohlaselweyo. Kwisibini kufuneka nithande kodwa nonxibelelwano oluhle. Akuncedi nganto ukuthandana nomntu, xa kuthethwa rhoqo kuye ngendlela ehlekisayo nenogonyamelo. Ukwazi ukuthetha izinto ngentlonipho nangendlela ephucukileyo iyafana nenyaniso yokuba ubudlelwane busempilweni kwaye buhamba kakuhle kakhulu.
Ingxaki enkulu kuyo yonke into kukuba kukho abantu abayibona njengesiqhelo xa iqabane labo lithetha kakubi kubo. Abafuni ukubona ukuba bayaphathwa gadalala imihla ngemihla ngulo mntu ebomini babo.
Cacisa iimpawu zonxibelelwano olunobundlongondlongo
Zininzi izinto ezicacileyo ezibonisa ukuba umntu ufumana unxibelelwano olunobundlobongela kwiqabane lakhe:
- Kukho ukuqhula rhoqo.
- Impendulo yomnye umntu ihlala ihleli ngezithuko nangobundlongondlongo obukhulu.
- Uninzi lweencoko luyaphela ukukhwaza nokulwa.
- Irony sisixhobo esisetyenziswa rhoqo ukwenza ububi.
- Uvelwano luyabonakala ngokungabikho kwalo.
- Zama ukubeka ityala rhoqo kwaye akazamkeli iimpazamo nangaliphi na ixesha.
Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa iqabane lakho lithetha kakubi nawe
Kuya kufuneka kucace kuqala kunakho konke ukuba unxibelelwano olululo ngumba ophambili wesibini ukuba usebenze.. Kuqhelekile ukuba ulwimi olubi kunye nokungahloniphi kube ngumkhwa kubudlelwane. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, kubalulekile ukwazi isizathu sonxibelelwano olundlongondlongo. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uthwala ubukrakra obuvela kwixa elidlulileyo nakwezinye iintlungu zobuntwana. Kule meko, kubalulekile ukuba uye kwingcali eyaziyo ukunyanga ingxaki enjalo.
Ngaphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko intetho evakalala inokuvunyelwa ukuba ibe yesiqhelo kwaye ingabalulekanga. Umntu oxhatshaziweyo kufuneka ahlale ecaleni kweqabane lakhe athethe ngokuzolileyo asombulule ingxaki. Kubalulekile ukuyenza icace into yokuba ezo ndlela zokuziphatha azinakuphinda ziphindwe.
Amagama amabi kunye nonxibelelwano olunobundlobongela kwiqabane kukuxhatshazwa ngokwenyani kwengqondo okungafanelekanga ukuba kunganyamezelwa naphantsi kwayiphi na imeko. Ukuba izinto azitshintshi emva kokuthetha ngayo, Umntu oxhatshaziweyo kufuneka abuphelise ubudlelwane obunjalo. Iqabane elinetyhefu alicetyiswa nakubani na kwaye kulungile ukulisiphula kwi-bud ngaphambi kokuba izinto zibe mandundu.