Ukuba ungumntu oneemvakalelo yinto entle leyo, ungaze uzive kabuhlungu ngokukhala kakhulu. Ukukhala yindlela yakho yokusetha kwakhona iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uqhubele phambili. Ukuba novelwano kuya kukunceda uqonde abanye kwaye uphumelele ngakumbi ebomini bakho. Une-advanteji abanye abangenayo: uziva unamandla kunaye nabani na ehlabathini.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba imo yeemvakalelo yakho yonakalise abanye bobudlelwane bakho bothando obudlulileyo, ungakhathazeki! Kuyacaca ukuba abo budlelwane bebungafanelanga wena. Ubungeyongxaki, ubungekadibani nomntu o right. Fumana ukuba kutheni le nto ilungile!
Uhlala uyayazi indlela oziva ngayo
Uyazi abo bantu bangenazigqibo abangaqinisekanga ukuba baziva njani emva komhla wokuqala? Ewe, ngokuqinisekileyo ayinguwe. Uphila ngeemvakalelo zakho kwaye unokuxelela ngokukhawuleza ukuba uyamthanda umfana okanye hayi. Kuyamangalisa ngokwenene oko kuba kukugcinela ixesha elininzi kunye nobuhlungu.
Xa ufikelela kwelo nqanaba liphazamisayo kubudlelwane apho uyazi ukuba ukubhala kuseludongeni ngokupheleleyo, unokuqaphela indlela iimvakalelo zakho ezitshintshile ngayo kwaye wenze into efanelekileyo (aka enika intetho ephazamisayo yokwahlukana).
Ulandela ithuku lakho
Iyamangalisa indlela abantu abaninzi abangaphili ngokwethuku labo. Inyaniso kukuba unethuku ngenxa yesizathu, ngoko kungcono ukubaphulaphula. Xa ungumntu oneemvakalelo, oko kuthetha ukuba ulandela ithuku lakho mihla le.
Uyenza ngokuzenzekelayo ngaphandle kokucinga ngayo, kwaye oko kupholile ngokwenene. Uya kuhlala uphuma kwiimeko ezimbi (njengomhla wokuqala apho umfana engaqhelekanga kwaye e-creepy) kunye uya kuma emva kokhetho lwakho lothando, usazi ukuba bebelungile.
Uyakwazi ukuphelisa abantu
Kukhuselekile ukutsho ukuba ayingabo bonke abafana abaya kulungelwa yintombi eneemvakalelo. Kungcono ukuva izinto endaweni yokwenza ngathi yonke into ilungile xa ingekho. Ayingawo onke amadoda aya kubuthanda ubuntu bakho, kodwa oko kulungile kuba kufuneka unyamezele lowo uya kukuthanda. Uyazi ukuba xa umntu engavumelani nendlela ovakalelwa ngayo, unokudlulela kwidinga elilandelayo.
Unothando kwaye unyanisekile
Xa uziva izinto ezininzi rhoqo, oko kuthetha nje ukuba ungumntu onothando ngokwenene. Loo nto ikwenza ube ngumhlobo nentombi ethembekileyo. Ezo mpawu zezona kanye amadoda ajongana neqabane (nokuba abakayazi ncam).
Uphatha impumelelo yabahlobo bakho ngokungathi yeyakho kwaye uhlala ufuna ukuba abantu behlabathi lakho bonwabe kangangoko. Emveni kwakho konke, Ufuna ukuba ngabahlobo kunye neqabane lakho, akunjalo? Loo nto intle kakhulu iphupha ubudlelwane.
Ungumntu onomdla
Abantu abathobekileyo benza umhlaba ujikeleze. Bahlekisa, bahlakaniphile, kwaye bamele into ethile. Banamabhongo yaye abanelisekanga kukuhlala phantsi baze bavumele izinto zenzeke kubo. Hayi, benza izinto zenzeke. Loo mntu nguwe. Ungumntu onomdla kunye neemvakalelo kwaye ufuna okona kulungileyo kuwe kuphela, oko kusebenza nakubudlelwane bakho. Uya kulwa kude kube sekupheleni ukufezekisa iinjongo kunye namaphupha akho.