Ukuba ufumana indlela yokwandisa amandla akho, uya kwenza umahluko phakathi kwentlalontle yakho kunye nokudinwa xa ukhulisa abantwana bakho.. Kubume bomzali ukuba ulonwabo lwangaphambili kunye nolonwabo lube luxinzelelo kunye nokuxhalaba ... ukukhungatheka kunokutya umthamo omkhulu wamandla omzimba, engqondweni nangokweemvakalelo. Kusemandleni akho ukonyusa amandla nokwenza umahluko kwintlalontle yakho kunye nendlela obaphatha ngayo abantwana bakho.
Yiba lolona guqulelo lungcono kuwe
Maxa wambi xa abazali bexinezelekile, basenokuphatha abantwana babo ngendlela engathandekiyo ngakumbi kunaxa beziva bevuya ngeziqu zabo nemekobume. Ukuba ungaphakathi kwendawo yakho yokuphila uya kuba yeyona nguqulelo ilungileyo kuwe, kodwa ewe, kuya kufuneka ube ngelo xesha ukuze uyifezekise. Le ndawo ikwabizwa ngokuba "indawo yokunyamezela" okanye "ifestile yokunyamezela". Kule ndawo uya kuziva ulungile kwaye ujabule, uya kuzola kwaye udibanise nabanye.
Uya kuziva ngathi ungamelana namahla-ndinyuka obomi, uya kubaphulaphula abantwana bakho, kwaye uya kubuya umva kwiingxaki. Ukuba izinto ziba nzima uya kufumana ngokulula iindlela zobuchule zokujongana nemingeni yakho. Kule ndawo yezempilo uya kuhlala ulolona guqulelo lungcono kuwe.
Isizathu sokwanda kwesakhono kukuba ingqondo yethu isebenza ngcono xa siphumle kwaye siziva kamnandi. Sinofikelelo olungcono kwiindawo zobuchopho ezivele ngakumbi, ezisinceda ukuba sicinge ngobukrelekrele nangobuchule kwaye senze izigqibo ezingcono. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, xa singaphandle kwendawo yethu yokuphila kakuhle, siziva sicinezelekile, singalawuleki okanye sikhathazekile. Sizaliswe ziihomoni zoxinzelelo kunye neenxalenye zokuqala zobuchopho zithatha indawo yokunikezela ngeempendulo ezingxamisekileyo zokusinda, njengokulwa okanye ukubhabha.
Abazali banokukuqonda oku ngokugqabhuka ngomsindo, okufana nokuthi: “Ndanele koku! Yiya egumbini lakho!' 'Yeka okanye ungabikho i-iPad ngeveki!' Okanye mhlawumbi ude ubethe umntwana okanye uhlasele ngokuthuka. Ngokwembono yethu yengqondo, xa siziva ngale ndlela, ingaphezulu kobukrelekrele bethu obunengqondo, kunye nokukwazi kwethu ukucinga ngokuyilayo, bona umfanekiso omkhulu kwaye uphendule kwindawo yothando.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukucaphuka kwethu kunceda ukwenza izinto zenzeke okanye umyalezo wethu ugqitywe. Kodwa ngokufuthi, xa benyanzelwa kumda, abazali banokuziva becaphukile, bengenakuzinceda, yaye bezisola ngezenzo zabo. Ukubeka nje, xa sinobudlelwane obuqinileyo nendawo yethu yokuphila kakuhle, siba ngabazali abangcono kwaye sisempilweni engqondweni nasemzimbeni.
Ngelishwa, ubunzima obungapheleli nje ekubeni ngumzali kodwa bufuna, ubomi bangoku obukhawulezayo buthetha ukuba uninzi lwethu luzifumana singaphandle kwendawo yethu yokuthuthuzela rhoqo kunokuba besifanele... izinto zisinceda sizive kamnandi. Fumana umzuzu wokucamngca kwaye Uya kuba nakho ukuhlala rhoqo kule ndawo yentlalontle ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe nakusapho lwakho.