Kungenzeka ukuba uqale ubudlelwane nomdla omkhulu kuba le nkwenkwe ibonakala intle kuwe. Uyathandeka, mhle kwaye ubonakala eyindoda elungileyo. Kodwa njengokuba iiveki zihamba uyakuqonda oko Into eyenzekayo engalindelekanga yenzekile: usathandana nentombi yakhe yangaphambili. Ungena njani kubudlelwane obutsha ukuba usenayo i-ex yakho entlokweni yakho? Asazi, kodwa kuyenzeka.
Abantu abatshatileyo abazahlukani abanakuqhubeka nokuba ngabahlobo kuba oko kuyakwenza ukuba bacinge nge-ex ixesha elide, into eya kubathintela ekuthandaneni kwakhona nomntu omtsha onokuzisa izinto ezintle (kunye nezintsha) ebomini babo.
Phelisa ubudlelwane
Inokuba yinto entle kakhulu kodwa ayizukubakho ixesha elide ukuba une-ex yakho entlokweni yakho. Ukuba uqaphele ukuba utshintsha njani amehlo akho xa igama lakho likhankanyiwe okanye ngekhe uyeke ukuthetha ngalo, kuya kufuneka ke ucinge ngesidima sakho. Ungaziva unyanzelekile ukuba ubuphelise ubudlelwane, kodwa entliziyweni yakho uyazi ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo ungayenza.
Kodwa ukuba awazi ukuba ungayenza njani, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyicingile kukuba iimvakalelo zakho zicacile kwaye ayisiyongqondo engenantsingiselo. Ukuba ucinga ngenene ukuba le ndoda uthandana nayo iyathandana kwi-ex yakhe, ke thetha ngezo mvakalelo beka amakhadi phezu kwetafile kwaye uqiniseke ukuba sisigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Ixesha lekhefu
Kubantu abaninzi, ukuphelisa ubudlelwane akusoloko kuyinto elula, ngakumbi ukuba uthandane nalo mntu ixesha elingaphezulu konyaka kwaye ubathanda ngokwenene. Kufuneka uqiniseke ngento oza kuyenza ukuthintela intlungu yeemvakalelo yokuzisola. Ukufumana amagama afanelekileyo kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo akusoloko kuyinto elula. Khumbula ukuba ukwahlukana kufuneka kwenziwe ubuso ngobuso, ulibale malunga nokusebenzisa i-WhatsApp kwaye ube nesibindi ngakumbi.
Yamkela indlela oziva ngayo
Ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uthanda omnye umfazi, ungaziva ungonwabanga, kodwa ukoyisa ezo mvakalelo kufuneka uzamkele kuqala. Yamkela iimvakalelo zakho kwaye xa uyenzile emva koko ungaqala incoko eqinisekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukwahlukana naye. Ungasebenzisa isiqalo into efana nale: "Ndilonwabele kakhulu ulwalamano lwethu kodwa ndiziva ngathi kungcono ukuba sibe ngabahlobo kunokulwa into enkulu kunothando lwethu." Kuya kufuneka uhlale uzolile kwaye uchaze ukuba uziva ngathi unemvakalelo malunga ne ex yakhe intombi kwaye oko kuthintela ukuba ukwazi ukumthemba kunye nokugcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo neqabane lakho.
Mamela into ayithethayo kuwe
Nokuba ulusizi kwaye ukhathazekile, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba sisigqibo sabo bobabini hayi into esecaleni. Ukuba akafuni kuthetha ngayo, zama ukumenza. Ukuba uyanyanzelisa ukuba akanazimvakalelo nge-ex yakhe, mamela into ayithethayo kuwe, isenokungabi yile nto ubuyicinga kwaye ubuphosakele ngokupheleleyo. Mhlawumbi ucinga okuthile ngaye kodwa iimvakalelo anazo ngawe zomelele kakhulu, Kodwa ungadinga ixesha lokupholisa amanxeba akho kunye nokufumana ubudlelwane kunye ne ex yakho.