Abantwana bakho bafuna ukuba uqinisekise iimvakalelo zabo ukuba bayazi ukuba ukhathalele iimvakalelo zabo, Kuya kufuneka ubakhaphe kuwo wonke umzuzu wobomi babo. Ngamanye amaxesha oko abantwana bakho baziva ngathi kusengathi kububudenge okanye akubalulekanga kangako, kodwa enyanisweni kubaluleke kakhulu kwaye bafuna isikhokelo sakho kunye nokuqonda ukuze bakhule ngokweemvakalelo.
Njengabazali kunye nabantu abadala, kufanelekile ukuba uthethe ngeemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo nabantwana bakho. Kubalulekile ukuba abantwana bazi ukuba iimvakalelo zikhona, kwaye zonke zibalulekile, kwaye zibalulekileNgabo basixelela ukuba sinjani kwaye basikhokele ekuzifumaneni singcono ukuba kunyanzelekile. Ukufezekisa oku, kubalulekile ukuqonda iimvakalelo esinokuziva kwaye sizinike igama. Kuphela ngokulebhelisha igama leemvakalelo apho abantwana baya kufunda ukubathiya amagama xa beziva.
Buza unyana wakho ukuba yintoni ingxaki
Ngale ndlela, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ufundise abantwana bakho ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kubo kwaye ukwenze oko ngokubuza imibuzo. Ukuba uzenzakalisile, ukuba unomsindo okanye ukhathazekile, kuya kufuneka umbuze izinto ezinje: 'Yintoni embi?', 'Ngaba uzenzakalisile?', 'Ngaba kukho umntu okubethileyo?', njl. Yindlela abantwana ababonisa ngayo okwenzekileyo kubo. Nje ukuba bakuphendule, kufuneka baqonde imvakalelo abaziva ngayo: 'Ndiyabona ukuba iyakucaphukisa le nto'.
Nje ukuba imvakalelo ibhalwe iilebhile emva koko kufuneka kufumaneke isisombululo sento ekwenza uzive ungalunganga. Nokuba umntwana wakho uhlala elusizi okanye enomsindo, kancinci kancinci kwaye enkosi kwinto yokuba uziqinisekisile kwaye wazihlonipha iimvakalelo zabo, Uya kuqala ukuziva ubhetele, uya kuqonda ukuba yeyiphi imvakalelo ekulawulileyo kwaye ngaphezu kwako konke, uya kufunda ukuba ungasifumana isisombululo ukuba uyafuna ngokwenene ukusenza.
Xa uqhagamshela kwintlungu yabantwana bakho kwaye wamkela iimvakalelo zabo (nokuba baziphethe njani), baya kuthi abantwana bakho bazive benxibeleleke kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo kuwe. Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke loo nto, kufuneka ufunde ukwahlula iimvakalelo ekuziphatheni. Oku kuthetha ukuba abantwana bakho kufuneka bafunde ukuba akunakuthetheleleka, umzekelo, ukuba baziva benomsindo, babetha umzalwana okanye baphule oonodoli. Kukho ezinye iindlela zokuhambisa umsindo kwaye iya kuba ngumsebenzi wakho ukumfundisa ukwenza njalo.
Bazakuziva bekhatshwa nguwe
Ngale ndlela, abantwana bakho baya kuziva bekhatshwa nguwe. Bayazi ukuba uya kuba ecaleni kwabo nanini na xa bekudinga kwaye baya kukwazi ukulila esifubeni sakho kuba baya kuziva ukuba uyaziqonda iimvakalelo zabo kwaye uyabahlonipha ngalo lonke ixesha. Ebomini kuya kuhlala kukho iingxaki kwaye kubalulekile ukuba abantwana baqonde ukuba oku kuyakuvelisa iimvakalelo ezinokubakhokelela kwimpilo-ntle yabo yeemvakalelo.
Ukuba wenza ubudlelwane obunokuthenjwa nabantwana bakho, baya kuziva beviwe, beqondwa kwaye behlonitshwa kwaye baya kubeka isiseko sonxibelelwano olumanzi oluya kukhula ngokuhamba kwexesha kwaye lube luncedo njengoko besondela kwinqanaba lokufikisa kwaye imicimbi yabo iba yabucala ngakumbi kubo . Kubo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqinisekise iimvakalelo zabo ukuze uzive ulungile!