Kungenzeka ukuba yonke imihla kukho abantu kwindawo yakho abaphula umthetho wakho kwaye kukwenza uzive ungonwabanga kaninzi, kodwa awazi ukuba mawusabele njani. Ukuze uphendule, into yokuqala ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba kufuneka wazi ukuba kukwaphula umthetho kwaye ngubani nokuba ngubani umntu owenzayo.
Kunzima kakhulu ukujongana nokwaphulwa kwemida yabantu abasondeleyo kuwe, abo bendawo yakho, abo bantu bayinxalenye yobomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, njengamalungu osapho lwakho.
Iindidi zokuphula umthetho
Ulwaphulo lwemida lunokuba ngaphandle okanye ngaphakathi. Ukophulwa kwemida yangaphandle kunento yokwenza nendawo ebonakalayo, njengokuma kufutshane kakhulu, ukukuphatha ngendlela engafunekiyo, okanye ukuziphatha ngendlela eqhelekileyo okanye esondeleyo xa loo mntu eyinto nje engamqhelanga okanye ongamaziyo. Xa umntu ethatha ukutya kwipleyiti yakho engakubuzanga, inokuba kukwaphula imida yabo yangaphandle.
Ukophulwa kwemida yangaphakathi Babandakanya izinto ezinje ngokuthatha uxanduva kwiingcinga zomnye umntu, iimvakalelo, okanye indlela aziphethe ngayo. Xa umntu ethatha ukuba ayayazi indlela ocinga ngayo, oziva ngayo okanye into ekufuneka uyenze, baphula imida yakho yangaphakathi. Xa umntu ekuxelela ukuba wenzeni ngobomi bakho okanye uzama ukukukhohlisa, baphula imida yakho. Imida yangaphakathi ikwaphulwe xa umntu ekubek 'ityala ngale ndlela bavakalelwa ngayo.
Ngubani owophula imida yakho
Kukwakho nabantu abaphula imida yakho kuba abanamida. Banobuthathaka kwaye abazihloniphi iziqu zabo. Oku kunokwenzeka xa:
- Kukho abantu abazi indlela yokuqonda imiqondiso yentlalo okanye ulwimi lomzimba. Aba bantu banokungenelela. Abanye baba bantu banokuba neengxaki zengqondo okanye iingxaki.
- Kukho abantu abangenantlonelo ngemida Ukusuka kwabanye ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kubuntu, njengobuntu obunemida okanye ubuntu be-narcissistic. Banokungakhathali kwiimvakalelo zabanye kwaye nokungakhathali kunye nemida ngenxa ye-ego yabo enkulu.
- Abantu abangazithembanga banokwaphula imida kuba baziva befuneka kwaye bephantsi kuwe. Bayakubona womelele kwaye bazama ukophula umthetho ngendlela eyenzeka kubo.
- Umntu oshukunyiswa ngokwesondo unokuziphatha ngokungafanelekanga kwabanye. Awazi ukuba ungajongana njani neemvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kunye noloyiko kwaye ufuna ingqwalaselo engxamisekileyo yobuchwephesha. Umntu onyanzelwayo ngokwesini kwaye onganyangwa ziingcali angangumntu owaphula amalungelo abantu ngokuphawula, okungafanelekanga kwaye angaliphatha kakubi ngokwesondo ixhoba lakhe.
Le yimida abantu abawela ngamanye amaxesha kwaye kufuneka uyiqonde ukuze ungabavumeli ukuba benze njalo ebomini bakho. Ngale ndlela unokuseta imida esempilweni kubudlelwane bakho kunye nokuphepha iingxaki kwixa elizayo.