Ukugcina ubudlelwane obunothando nomntu oxhaphazayo yinto enzulu kakhulu, ekufuneka unike ukubaluleka kwayo. Umntu oxhaphazayo uhlala eyi-sociopath, into enokubangela ukuba ubudlelwane bube yityhefu kwaye buyingozi.
Akunakho phantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko ukuvunyelwa ukuba ugcine ubudlelwane nomntu oxhaphazayo, kubalulekile ukuba uphume kuyo ngokukhawuleza.
Wazi njani ukuba iqabane liyakhohlisa
Kukho inani lezinto ezicacileyo nezicacileyo Oko kunokubonisa ukuba umntu uyakhohlisa phakathi kwesi sibini:
- Umntu oneqhinga usoloko esiba lixhoba, nokuba akalunganga. Uhlala etyhola iqabane ngayo yonke into kwaye akakwazi ukuqonda ukuba ngoyena nobangela.
- Lo mntu ujongene nokubonisa ukuba akukho mntu ungcono emhlabeni kunaye. Khupha iziphene zomnye umntu ukubenza bazive bengakhuselekanga kwaye bengathembi. Uloyiko loku kunye nokuba wedwa okanye uwedwa kukuba kunye nomntu oqhubayo.
- Ukuxhaphaza kufikelela kugqithiso olunokuthi lubangele ukuba esi sibini silwe nosapho okanye nabahlobo. Ngale nto, ufuna ukuphuma kwabanye kwaye axhomekeke kuye. Kwixesha elide, ibangela ukuba umntu ophethwe ngobuqhetseba abe yedwa kwaye angabi namntu wokuya kuye.
- Nangona umntu oqhubayo evela kwiimvakalelo zokuba ngumntu ozolileyo kwaye waqokelelwa, xa eziva ekhoneni, unokuba nobundlobongela kwaye aphulukane nendima yakhe. Akathandi ukuphulukana nenyathelo kwaye angabonisa ubuso bakhe bokwenyani. Kwiimeko ezimbi kakhulu, kunokukhokelela kubundlobongela emzimbeni.
- Umntu oxhaphazayo uhlala esenza naluphi na uhlobo lwesigqibo kwisibini, ngaphandle koluvo lomnye umntu. Ngeengxoxo zakhe ufumana esi sibini ukuba sithathe isigqibo esifunwa ngumlawuli kwasekuqaleni.
- Ukuba umntu uyakhohlisa, baya kuthandana neqabane ngalo lonke ixesha. Uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze omnye umntu kubudlelane aphile kwaye ngale ndlela uhlala enaye ecaleni kwakhe. Unxiba imaski ukuze angabonisi ubuntu bakhe bokwenyani. Ukuba ubuzwa ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, umntu oxhaphazayo utshintsha ngokupheleleyo, etyhila ubuso bakhe bokwenyani.
- Ukunyanzeliswa lolunye lweempawu ezicacileyo zomntu oqhubayo. Ukuba ulahlekelwa kukulawula into ethile, uhlala ukhathaza iqabane lakho ngokubenza bazive bengalunganga ngalo. Ubutyhefu bukhona ngawo onke amaxesha kwaye bunokumphatha gadalala emzimbeni omnye umntu.
Ukuba neqabane elikhohlisayo akuyonto ilungileyo kulo naluphi na ulwalamano. Ukuba kuqinisekisiwe ukuba umntu ulawula omnye, kubalulekile ukuba ubuphelise ubudlelwane obunjalo kuba ekuhambeni kwexesha kungakho iingxaki ezinzulu kwaye ube ngumntu onetyhefu noyingozi. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwabantu alunako ukukuqonda ukuqhubekeka ngokuqhubekekayo kwesi sibini kwaye bahlala ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba banobudlelwane obunetyhefu, apho imbonakalo ibonakala ngokungabikho kwayo.