Unokuzibuza ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ungalithandi iqabane lakho, kodwa liqhelekile? Umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye kuyafana nobudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba awulithandi iqabane lakho ngamanye amaxesha, olu luphawu lwesilumkiso ekufuneka uluthathile ingqalelo. Ukuba awubucingi ubomi bakho bonke kunye neqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uqwalasele eyona nto uyifunayo.
Ukuba uza kuchitha ubomi bakho bonke nomntu, kufuneka ubathande, ubathande kwaye ufuna ukubanyamekela ngonaphakade. Ukuba niza kuchitha ubomi benu bonke nomntu, okanye ukuba ubona ikamva elide kakhulu kunye, kuya kufuneka usoloko ubathanda, ubakhathalele. Ezo mvakalelo zothando, unqulo kunye nomsa Akufanelekanga ukuba zingabikho, kodwa nokuba kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho kunye.
Ewe kulwalamano ngalunye kukho amahla ndinyuka, iingxabano, ukungavisisani, neengxaki. Nangona kunjalo, awusoze uyeke ukuthanda iqabane lakho xa oko kusenzeka. Endaweni yoko, nobabini kufuneka nisingathe imicimbi ejongene nayo, kwaye boniseni ukuba nizoyisa. Oku kufanele ukuba kube lula ukuyenza ngenxa yesibophelelo esimanyanisayo kunye nonxibelelwano enabelana ngalo nobabini kuphela. Ke, Ithetha ukuthini ukuba ngamanye amaxesha awulithandi iqabane lakho? Funda ukuze ufumanise kwaye ubone ukuba kufuneka wenze ntoni ukuba yile ndlela oziva ngayo kubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho.
Uziva nini ngathi awulithandi iqabane lakho?
Nangona oku kunokubonakala ngathi ngumbuzo wolutsha ongenangqondo, awunjalo. Eyona ndlela yokufumanisa ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuba awusoloko ulithanda iqabane lakho ukuqala kwingcambu yoku. Jonga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni xa ungamthandi ukuze ubone into ongayithandiyo ngaye kwaye yintoni ebangela le mvakalelo kuwe. Ngokwenza oku, kunokuba lula okanye kube nzima ngakumbi. Ngolunye uhlobo, kuya kufuneka uyifumanise ukuze ufumanise ukuba inyathelo lakho elilandelayo kufuneka libe yintoni.
Umzekelo, ukuba awulithandi iqabane lakho xa likuthumela imiyalezo, kusenokwenzeka ngenxa yokunqongophala kwemvakalelo abayidlulisayo ngombhalo. Oku kunokulungiswa ngokulula ngokunxibelelana ngemifanekiso kunye nokubhaliweyo, skype, snapchat, okanye nokuthetha kwifowuni. Kuyamangalisa ukubona umahluko phakathi kokufunda amagama kunye nokukwazi ukuva ilizwi lomntu okanye ukubona ulwimi lomzimba ngelixa uhambisa umyalezo ofanayo.
Awungekhe ulithande iqabane lakho xa bexabana kwaye oku kunokuba njalo kuba babambelele kwizinto kwaye bazisa zonke iingxaki, umlo odlulileyo, okanye akukho nto, ebangela ingxaki nangakumbi.
Le yingxaki esebenzayo kubudlelwane, kodwa inokusonjululwa ngokunxibelelana nawe malunga noku ... ngovelwano nokuzithemba. Nokuba ungalithandi ixesha elingakanani iqabane lakho, kuya kufuneka uqaphele xa ungamthandi. Nje ukuba ukwenze oku, kuya kufuneka uphinde ubuye kuloo maxesha ukufumanisa ukuba kwenzeke ntoni ukuze wazi ukuba yintoni eluxanduva lwakho kule meko.