Uthando xa lufikisa lubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba lusenokubonakala ekuqaleni. Ubudlelwane obuhle okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, amava amabi anokuchaphazela ngokuthe ngqo into echaphazelekayo yomntu ochaphazelekayo.
Alithandabuzeki elokuba uthando ebutsheni alufani kwaphela nothando lwabantu abadala, eneempawu zayo nokubaluleka kwayo. Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha ngothando xa umntu efikisa nomsebenzi wabazali kulo.
Uhlobo lothando ebutsheni
Kubo bonke ubomi umntu uya kuba neentlobo ezininzi zothando, nokuba luhlobo lobuzalwana, lwentsapho, ubuhlobo okanye uthando lothando. Ngale ndlela, uthando lomntwana luthando olufunyanwa ngabantwana ngokukhawuleza nje bakuba bezelwe ngabazali babo. Kwimeko yothando lothando, iqala xa ifikelela kwinqanaba lokufikisa.
Iimpawu zothando olufikisayo
Uthando olufunyanwa ngexesha lokufikisa luya kuphawulwa ikakhulu ngezinto ezimbini ezibalulekileyo:
- Luhlobo lothando apho umtsalane wesini unamandla kakhulu kwaye ubalulekile. Umfana okanye ibhinqa eliselula lifuna ngamandla ukubamba iqabane nokuba neentlobano zesini. Ukwabelana ngesondo ke yeyona nto iphambili ngokuchasene nenkanuko okanye uthando ngokwalo.
- Kukho unxulumano olunamandla ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane. Bobabini abantu abancinci babelana ngeemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo ngendlela ebukhali njengoko iluthando lwabo lokuqala.
Yintoni abafanele bayenze abazali xa bejamelene nothando analo unyana wabo okwishumi elivisayo
Ukufika kothando lokuqala ngumzuzu okhethekileyo kuye nawuphi na umntu omncinci. Kwimeko yabazali, kufuneka benze ngokuthathela ingqalelo uluhlu lwezikhokelo kunye nemiba:
- Kufuneka uhloniphe imfihlo yomntu osemtsha kwaye ungangeni kuyo naphantsi kwayo nayiphi na imeko. Umntwana ofikisayo umele abe nenkululeko epheleleyo xa ethetha nabazali bakhe ngaloo mbandela yaye angaziva emphazamisile.
- Abazali abafanele bahlekise ngeemvakalelo zomntu oselula. Lixesha elibaluleke kakhulu ebomini kulo mfana uthe, ngoko abazali bafanele babonise intlonelo ngayo baze bayixhase kuyo yonke into.
- Umntwana ofikisayo umele avunyelwe ukuba aveze iimvakalelo zakhe ngokukhululekileyo. kwaye unokwabelana ngamava akho amahle nabazali bakho. Akucebisekanga kwaphela ukumcinezela umntu oselula ukuze angavuleki kwinqanaba leemvakalelo.
- Akulungele ukuthetha kakubi ngesi sibini, kuba oku kunokubangela ukuba azivale kwaye awufuni ukwabelana ngamava akho.
- Ukususela ekuzoleni nasekuzoleni kukulungele ukuhlala nabancinci kunye thetha ngokungabi nazintloni ngesini. Umbandela wesini ubaluleke kakhulu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, yiyo loo nto kulungile ukuthetha ngawo nomntu omncinci.
- Nangona uneqabane ingqeqesho ifanele ibekho ngalo lonke ixesha entsatsheni kwaye umfana kufuneka afeze imisebenzi yakhe kunye neemfanelo zakhe ngaphakathi kwendlu.
Ngamafutshane, alithandabuzeki elokuba uthando olufunyanwa ebudeni bokufikisa ludla ngokushiya uphawu kubomi bakhe nawuphi na umntu. Luthando olwahluke ngokupheleleyo kunolo luya kufunyanwa ekuhambeni kweminyaka. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, kubalulekile ukuba abazali bazi indlela yokwenza ngendlela engcono kakhulu kwaye baxhase umntu osemtsha kuyo yonke into efunekayo. Uthando lwabafikisayo ludla ngokuba lelona xesha limangalisayo nelinomlingo ebomini bakhe nabani na.