Fumana umntu oza kumthanda kwaye ubuyiselwe Yinto egcwalisa nabani na ngolonwabo.. Yiyo loo nto uninzi loluntu lunxulumana ngokuthe ngqo nokuba neqabane kunye nokonwaba ebomini.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu abangenamaqabane kwaye abonwabileyo kwaye baziva banelisekile ngokupheleleyo. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siyakubonisa indlela yokonwaba ngaphandle kokuba nobudlelwane.
Ngaba unokonwaba ngaphandle kobudlelwane?
Abantu abaninzi banxulumanisa imvakalelo yolonwabo novuyo nesibakala sokwabelana nabanye ngobomi. Nangona kunjalo, umntu ongenaqabane unokonwaba njengomntu oneqabane. Ukonwaba akuyonto ingaphaya kokuzithanda nokufeza oko umntu azimisele ukukwenza. Nazi ezinye izikhokelo ezinokukunceda wonwabe nangona ungabelani ngobomi nabani.
Zazi wena
Abantu abaninzi abanamaqabane benza impazamo enkulu yokwanelisa iimfuno zomntu abamthandayo, betyeshela ezabo. Ukungabi neqabane kukuvumela ukuba uchithe ixesha elininzi kuwe kwaye uzazi ngokwakho ngaphakathi. Kufuneka uqale ngokonwaba nawe kwaye ukusuka apho unike ulonwabo kwabanye. Ukuba oku akwenziwanga, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba usizi okanye ukungakhathali kubonakale ngokuhamba kwexesha, nangona kubudlelwane.
Lonwabela ixesha lomntu ngamnye
Imibhangqwana emininzi ayivuyiswa kukuba ayinalo ixesha lokukhulula kwaye inikezela kwintlalontle yomthandayo. Inkululeko ngundoqo ukuba isibini sihlale sonwabile. Ukungabi neqabane kukuvumela ukuba ukonwabele ixesha lakho lokukhululeka ngokupheleleyo kwaye wabelane ngalo nawe, nosapho okanye nabahlobo.
Yazi indlela yokuzixabisa
Umntu ongatshatanga uyavuya xa ekwazi ukuzixabisa ngaphakathi. Izibini ezininzi zenza iphutha lokungaxabisani ngokwaneleyo, kwaye oku kunempembelelo embi kulonwabo kunye nentlalontle yobudlelwane. Okokuqala kufuneka uzixabise kwaye ukusuka apho, uxabise abanye.
Khula njengomntu kunye nomntu
Ukuba neqabane kunokubangela ukudodobala okuthile xa kufikwa ekukhuleni. Ukuntywiliselwa kubudlelwane akunakuba ngumqobo ekukhuleni okunjalo. Umntu ongatshatanga uyakwazi ukuphilisa amanxeba avela imihla ngemihla kwaye akhule ngendlela yokuba ulonwabo luhlala lukhona.
Ngamafutshane, akuyimfuneko ukuba neqabane ukuze ukwazi ukonwaba ebomini kwaye ujabulele. Abantu abaninzi banobudlelwane beqabane kwaye ngaphandle koku abakwazi ukufumana ulonwabo olulangazelela. Umntu ongatshatanga ongenamntu anokwabelana naye ngobomi bakhe unokonwaba kubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla. Ukuzithanda nokuzixabisa ngokuqhubekayo kubalulekile xa kufikelelwa ekuphumezeni impilo-ntle oyifunayo.