Ukuba ungutata okanye umama, kusenokwenzeka ukuba wakha wacaphuka ngabantwana bakho waza wabangxolisa ngaxa lithile. Musa ukuziva unetyala kakhulu, yinto eyenzekayo amaxesha amaninzi kunokuba singathanda. Kodwa ungumntu kwaye abantwana abaziphathi ngendlela engafanelekanga, nditsho nangezo ntsuku xa udiniwe okanye uxinezelekile.
Ingxaki xa ukukhwaza kuyinto eqhelekileyo ekhaya, ngoko kuya kufuneka ukuba ucinge malunga nento eyenzekayo ukuze ufumane izisombululo ezingcono. Ukukhwaza akuyondlela ilungileyo yokuqeqesha abantwana, kunokuba yimpazamo. Kuya kufuneka usoloko uzolile ngaphambi kokuba uqeqeshe abantwana bakho. Ubafundisa ntoni abantwana bakho xa ukhwaza?
Ubafundisa ukuba ubundlavini bulungile.
Ukukhwaza kunokufumana ingqalelo yomntwana wakho ngoku, kodwa ayitshintshi indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kwixesha elide. Into efundwa ngumntwana wakho ekuhambeni kwexesha kukuba ubundlongo-ndlongo kulungile ukuthetha. Uya kufunda ukukhwaza ukuveza imbono yakho ngalo lonke ixesha kukho ingxaki okanye impixano.
Ukukhwaza kuphelelwa ngamandla
Ukuba ukhala kakhulu, kufuneka wazi ukuba iya kuphulukana nayo yonke impumelelo ocinga ukuba inakho. Ukuba uhlala uthetha ngokuvakalayo, ekuhambeni kwexesha ulahlekelwa yimpembelelo yokukhwaza okanye ukuthetha ngokuqinileyo kwixesha elizayo.
Awubahloniphi abantwana bakho (okanye wena ngokwakho)
Ubuya kuziva njani ukuba umphathi wenkampani yakho uhlala ekungxolisa xa wenze impazamo? Kuya kwenzeka ntoni ukuba iqabane lakho liqala ukukungxolisa ngexesha lomlo? Kungenzeka ukuba uzive uzikhusela, ukhathazekile kwaye unomsindo... Ewe, kwenzeka into efanayo kanye kubantwana bakho. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni na ofuna ukuyithetha, omnye umntu uya kuviwa kuphela ukuba uthetha ngembeko nangobubele.
Umntwana wakho uya kuba nomsindo kwaye ahlukane nawe ngokweemvakalelo.
Abantu banendlela yendalo yokusabela xa bengxoliswa. Sihlehla okanye siphendule ngomsindo. Ezi ziimpendulo oya kuzifumana kumntwana wakho xa ulahlekelwe kukuphola kwakho, kwaye nokuba isimilo somntwana wakho silungisiwe na okanye hayi, kufuneka uzibuze ukuba kufanelekile na ixabiso elibiza kakhulu ukuhlawula nje ukuxolisa ukuphoxeka kwakho okomzuzwana (kuba kuyanda kamva. ).udano, uxinzelelo kunye nokuzisola ngokukhwaza).
Ubonisa ukuba awukwazi ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho
Ukungamkeleki, ukuphoxeka, kunye nokungonwabi: ezo zezinye izixhobo ezinamandla kuqeqesho lwabazali. Kodwa ukukhwaza kubonisa umntwana wakho ukuba awulawulanga, into ongayifuniyo ukuba yenzeke xa uqinisekisa igunya ... Ukuba uyangxola, abantwana bakho abakuhloneli.
Ukukhwaza kuyingozi
Ukukhwaza kuyingozi njengokubetha, kwinqanaba lengqondo. Ukusebenzisa uqeqesho lwamazwi aqatha, kuquka Ukukhwaza okanye ukuthuka kunokuba yingozi ebantwaneni njengokuba bebetha, kukuxhatshazwa ngokwasengqondweni. EweKufunyenwe kwizifundo ezininzi ukuba abantwana abaye bafumana uqeqesho lomlomo oluqinileyo oluvela kubazali banokudakumba kamva ebomini okanye babonise iingxaki ezichasene noluntu okanye zokuziphatha.