Akukho mathandabuzo ukuba ukwazi ukufumana umntu omthandayo kwaye wabelane ngobomi nabo, ibonelela imeko ebalulekileyo yolonwabo kunye novuyo kumntu othandweni. Nangona kunjalo, umntu ongatshatanga ngaphandle kweqabane lakhe angonwaba kwaye abonwabele ngokupheleleyo ubomi.
In inqaku elilandelayo sikubonisa indlela umntu ongenalo iqabane kwaye angabelani ngobomi bakhe nabani na, angaphila ngolonwabo nolwaneliseko.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba wonwabe ngaphandle kokuba ube neqabane?
Abantu abaninzi banxulumana nokonwaba ngokuba neqabane kunye nokufumana uthando. Nangona kunjalo, umntu unokufumana ukonwaba nangona engatshatanga kwaye engenamntu amthandayo. Into ebalulekileyo kobu bomi kukuba ukwazi ukufumana ukuvumelana okuthile kuwe kwaye ube nakho ukukhuthaza ngokwaneleyo ukonwabela umzuzu ngamnye obonelelwa bubomi. Uthando lunokuncedisa kulonwabo lwakho kodwa akufuneki lube yinto eyimfuneko ukufikelela kwimeko yeemvakalelo ezinjalo.
Ungonwaba njani nangona ungenalo iqabane
Apha sikunika uthotho lweengcebiso eziza kukuvumela ukuba wonwabe ukuba awutshatanga:
- Into yokuqala yokwenza kukwazi wena kwaye ukusuka apho ukufumana ulonwabo. Akuncedi nto ukuba neqabane, ukuba umntu ngokwakhe akakwazi ukwanelisa iimfuno zakhe. Khumbula ukuba owokuqala kuko konke ukonwaba kwaye ukusuka apho, umntu sele enakho ukubonelela ngolonwabo kwabanye abantu.
- Ukukwazi ukukhula njengomntu kwaye ujongane neengxaki ezahlukeneyo ezivela ebomini, kuyamnceda loo mntu ukuba abunandiphe ubomi, nangona engenalo iqabane. Ukufezekisa iinjongo ezibekiweyo ebomini yeyona nto iphambili xa kusiziwa kulonwabo.
- Uyazithanda kwaye uzixabisile yimeko ebalulekileyo xa kusiziwa kulonwabo ebomini. Ukuzithemba nokuzithemba ngamaxabiso amabini avumela umntu ukuba onwabele wonke umzuzu wosuku nangaphandle kweqabane.
- Ukukwazi ukuba nexesha lasimahla lokwenza into oyithandayo yenye into ebalulekileyo xa kusiziwa kulonwabo. Kubalulekile ukuba ube nendawo yakho ukuze ukwazi ukubaleka kwiingxaki zemihla ngemihla. Ukungatshati kuya kuvumela umntu ukuba enze eyona nto ayithandayo ngaphandle kokuchazela mntu.
Ngamafutshane, ukuba neqabane okanye ukwabelana ngobomi nomntu akusoloko kufana nolonwabo. Umntu ogqiba ekubeni angatshati unokonwaba kwaye onwabele ubomi njengomnye umntu otywelwe kubudlelwane obuthile. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kobu bomi kukwazi ukuzazi kwaye uzixabise ngokuqinisekileyo kuwo wonke umzuzu wobomi. Ngethamsanqa, Ngakumbi nangakumbi abantu bathatha isigqibo sokungazibandakanyi kubudlelwane kwaye bagxile ekufumaneni ulonwabo lwabo.