Ubudlelwane bexesha elidlulileyo abuzange busebenze ngelo xesha kwaye ekuphela kwento omele uyisuse kubo kukufunda kwiimpazamo ezenziweyo. Ngoku usenokuba umfumene umntu omthanda ngokwenene nocinga ukuba “nguye.” Nangona kunjalo, njengoko nobabini niqhubeka nokwazana ngeencoko ngezihloko ezithile, kwaye nifunda ngakumbi omnye nomnye, ezinye izihloko zinokuthi zivele ezinokuthi zibangele ama-ripples emanzini azolileyo.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba ukulungele ukuphendula imibuzo ngokuchanekileyo ukuze ubudlelwane bakho bukhule, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuba nengqondo evulekileyo ukuze ukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo ngezi zihloko. Ukuthetha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo kunye neqabane lakho langoku kubudlelwane bakho obutsha kunokuba lula kakhulu okanye kube nzima kakhulu. Ekugqibeleni, ngaphambi kokuba wenze oku, kubalulekile ukujonga izinto ezahlukeneyo zokukunceda ukuba wenze isigqibo sokuba ngaba ukukhangela kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo lothando lifanelekile.
Kutheni kufuneka uthethe ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo
Ukuba ukhetha ukuthatha indlela yokuthetha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo, kufuneka uqaphele iingozi. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iinzuzo ezininzi koku. Ngokuthetha ngobudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo kunye neqabane lakho langoku, uvula amajelo onxibelelwano. Ngokwenza oku, udala unxibelelwano, iqhina, kunye nendawo yokunyaniseka kunye nokuba sesichengeni.
Konke oku kulungile, nangona inokuba yoyikeka, yoyikeka, icinezelekile, ixhalabile okanye icinezele, ilungile ngokwenene. Xa uxelela iqabane lakho malunga nobudlelwane bakho bangaphambili, kubalulekile ukunyaniseka, ukuvula, kunye nokungathathi hlangothi malunga nalo. Nangona kunjalo, kangangoko kufuneka unyaniseke, Kufuneka kwakhona ukhumbule ukuba akuyomfuneko ukuba uye kuzo zonke iinkcukacha kuzo zonke iinkalo zobudlelwane bakho bangaphambili.
Nangona wena neqabane lakho nivumile ukuthetha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo, oko akuthethi ukuba ufuna ukuva yonke into malunga nobomi bakho bokwabelana ngesondo nayo yonke into eyenzekayo. Kungcono ukushwankathela okulungileyo kunye nokubi kobudlelwane. Thetha malunga nokuba bekukuhle kangakanani ngamanye amaxesha kodwa uchaze nokuba yintoni eyonakalisa ubudlelwane, kulo mba ungangena kwiinkcukacha.
Kukho umgca omhle kakhulu
Kukho umgca omhle kakhulu woku, kufuneka unyaniseke kwaye uvule, kodwa kufuneka ugcine ezinye izinto zigcinwe kwaye zifihlwe ukwenza lula. Ukongeza, enye inzuzo yokuthetha ngobudlelwane obudlulileyo yinto yokuba unokuthetha ngento ongayithandiyo, eya kuthi iqabane lakho lingakwenzi ukuba lifuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze nawe.
Abantu banokukubona oku njengombono ombi kuba kuthetha ukuba ucebisa ukuba iqabane lakho litshintshe okanye lifihle iindawo zabo. Nangona kunjalo, akulunganga kuba ukhankanya nje into engahambi kakuhle kwixesha elidlulileyo, yakwenza waziva njani kwaye kwenzeka ntoni ngenxa yoko.
Iqabane lakho aliyi kutshintsha ngenxa yoku, oko kuthetha nje ukuba baya kuba neepateni ezithile zezinto abazichithayo kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye awufuni ukuba baphinde bakutshabalalise ngoku. Sisikhokelo seqabane lakho, into eza kumnceda Ngamana ubudlelwane bakho bunokuba ngcono kwaye umphumo wokugqibela awunanto yakwenza nobudlelwane bexesha elidlulileyo.
Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukuqaphela ukuba xa uthetha ngobudlelwane bakho obudlulileyo, kufuneka ulungele ukuva malunga nobudlelwane obudlulileyo beqabane lakho. Gcina ingqondo evulekileyo kwaye ufunde kumava akho adlulileyo ukuze uphucule langoku.