Njengomzali, ungoyena mntu unefuthe kubantwana bakho kwaye kuya kufuneka ubenolawulo ekubumbeni impilo-ntle yeemvakalelo nezengqondo. Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi wesikolo inokuba yinto eyothusayo ngokweemvakalelo, ungafuna njani ukwenzakalisa abanye esikolweni?
Kufuneka kubekho uncedo kumaxhoba, kodwa nakwabo bangcungcuthekisayo. Umxhaphazi akanyanzelekanga ukuba abe ngumntwana ombi, bakhetha nje indlela yokuziphatha engalunganga, ayibonisi ukuba bangobani kanye kanye. Intshukumo yokulungisa iyafuneka ukutshintsha le ndlela yokuziphatha imbi.
Emva kwengcungcuthekiso
Xa uninzi lwabazali lufumanisa ukuba umntwana wabo ungumxhaphazi, bayakhawuleza ukwenza iingcinga, bazikhusele, kwaye bababeke ityala nesikolo. Abaxhaphazi besikolo bahlala benengxaki yokuphazamiseka ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo, kwaye ukuxhatshazwa yindlela yabo yokujongana nemeko ebenza bazive bengalunganga. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ngaphambi kokuthatha naliphi na inyathelo kubalulekile ukuba abazali bafumanise ukuba kutheni umntwana wabo esiba ngumxhaphazi, kuba kuphela ngale ndlela unokufumana umendo onemveliso.
Ukuba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi, kuya kufuneka umbuze uzolile ukuba kutheni ehlupha abanye. Abantwana bayathinteka ngokwasemphefumlweni xa begculelwa kwaye ukuze bathethe nawe kwaye bakumamele, kufuneka umgcine ezolile.
Kutheni
Kuya kufuneka uqwalasele izizathu ezimbalwa zokuba kutheni abantwana benokuba ngabaxhaphazi besikolo:
- Babonakalisiwe kukuziphatha okugwenxa kunye nobundlobongela ekhaya banokuziphinda ezi zenzo.
- Bebekade bechaswa ngoontanga babo kwaye beziphindezela ngenxa yokuxhatshazwa kwabo.
- Abantwana abanokuzithemba okuphantsi bahlala befuna ukuziva bebalulekile kwaye benamandla. Ukuxhaphaza kunokubanika olovakalelo.
- Uninzi lwabangcungcuthekisi luthuthumbisa abanye kuba bengafumani luthando okanye ingqwalasela ekhaya okanye esikolweni.
- Abanye abaxhaphazi abayiqondi indlela indlela abaziphatha ngayo ebachaphazela ngayo amaxhoba abo.
- Abantwana ababekhe bangcungcuthekiswa banokuba ngabaxhaphazi ukuze bazikhusele kwaye baphinde babenamandla.
- Abanye abantwana abayiqondi intsingiselo yokuzimela baze ngokungazi babe ngabaxhaphazi.
- Xa abantwana belahlwa ngoontanga babo, banokuba ngabaxhaphazi kuba besoyika ukuba bodwa.
- Ukuba nabazali abanyanzelisi ngqeqesho kunokwenza ukuba umntwana abe ngumxhaphazi kuba bayazi ukuba ngekhe kubekho ziphumo kwizenzo zabo.
- Uninzi lwabantwana alibuqondi ubunzulu bokuxhatshazwa, ke abazali kufuneka babenze baqonde
Ngaba umntwana wakho ungumxhaphazi esikolweni?
Ukuba nolwalamano olusondeleyo nomntwana wakho kuya kumnceda aqonde ukuba kukho into engalunganga. Kuya kufuneka wenze ngokukhawuleza emva kokuqaphela imiqondiso yokuqala ... Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unendlela ethile yokuziphatha engaqhelekanga, kuya kufuneka ukhawuleze wenze kwaye uthembe iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuqwalaselwa ngokusondeleyo kufuneka kuhlawulwe kwindlela umntwana wakho athetha kwaye adlale ngayo nabanye. Kuya kufuneka ujonge nokuba uyahlekiswa okanye abe ndlongondlongo kwabanye, kunye nezizathu zokuziphatha kwakhe esikolweni.