Kukho abantu abaninzi abahluphekayo mihla le kwiqabane labo, izoyikiso zeemvakalelo kunye nezigqibo zazo zonke iintlobo. Ezi zoyikiso zibonisa uhlobo lonxibelelwano olunobundlongondlongo nolungavumelekanga kwicala lomlingane, ngaphezu kokuthatha ulawulo olupheleleyo lwamalungelo omntu. Naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko isibini sinokuyinciphisa inkululeko ngokuqhubeka sisebenzisa izoyikiso.
Konke oku kubangela ukuba kubekho iqhina okanye ubudlelwane obuyeka ukuba sempilweni kwaye iba yityhefu. Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha ngokuziphatha okusongelayo phakathi kwesibini naxa kunokuba yimfuneko.
Izoyikiso kunye nezigqibo njengendlela yokulawula phakathi kwesibini
Izoyikiso phakathi kwesibini zenza uhlobo olucacileyo lokunyanzeliswa kunye nolawulo lomntu oxoxwayo. Ingxaki enkulu ngezigqibo ezinjalo kukuba azikho ngamaxesha athile, ukwenzeka ngokwesiqhelo kusuku nosuku lobudlelwane Amaxesha amaninzi izoyikiso eziveliswa kwisibini zikhokelela kwizinto ezimbini ezichasene nalo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane obunempilo: ukudelela ngokupheleleyo kunye nokugxeka. Ngombulelo ekusebenziseni i-ultimatums, inxalenye enobuthi iyakwazi ukulawula isibini kunye nokunciphisa onke amalungelo abo, nokuba buqu okanye zentlalo.
Iimpawu ezahlukeneyo zabantu ababhenela kwizisongelo
- Imalunga nabantu ilawula kakhulu.
- Ngabantu abanengxaki yokunxibelelana. Yiyo loo nto bebhenela kwizisongelo kunye nezigqibo.
- Banokukhubazeka okukhulu xa kuziwa ekuqhubeni kokubini ukudana nomsindo.
- Ngabantu abane- iqondo eliphezulu le-narcissism.
- Ukungathembeki kwesi sibini kuyabonakala, ebangela umona.
- Nangona kukho izoyikiso, Bangabantu abaxhomekeke kakhulu ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngaba i-ultimatums iyimfuneko phakathi kwesibini?
I-Ultimatum ayikho enye into ngaphandle kwesoyikiso esisetyenziselwa ukulawula isibini. Kwiimeko ezininzi izisongelo ezinjalo baluxhatshazo ngokwasengqondweni nasemphefumlweni kwesi sibini kunye nendlela ecacileyo kakhulu yonxibelelwano olunobundlongondlongo nobundlobongela.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaxesha athile kunye nambalwa apho kufuneka uye kwi-ultimatums malunga nesibini. Isenokuba yimeko yokuziphatha eyingozi kubudlelwane njengoko kunjalo kwimeko yeziyobisi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, izisongelo zisisixhobo esiyimfuneko ukuguqula ubudlelwane kunye nokwenza ukuba buphile kwakhona.
Ngamafutshane, Kulungile ukusebenzisa izoyikiso ngexesha kwaye ngamaxesha athile kubudlelwane. Ezi zingqinisiso zinokwenza ukuba umntu azi ukuba kufuneka atshintshe ukuze ibhondi iqhubeke ikhona kwaye isibini sihlala ixesha elide. Ingxaki enkulu ivela xa izoyikiso zisetyenziswa ngendlela eqhelekileyo ukunyanzela nokulawula isibini. Umonakalo ngokweemvakalelo kwezi zoyikiso mkhulu kakhulu kwaye yinto ekungamelanga ukuba ivunyelwe ngaphakathi kubudlelwane obuthathwa njengesempilweni.