Kuyinyani ukuba ukuxolelwa sisixhobo esihle sokuziva ulungile kwaye sikwazi ukuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni nabanye kunye neqabane lethu. Kodwa sinokulixolela iqabane lethu ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba, elithie ayifanelekanga kukuba uxolele kwaye uxole kwaye usebenzise kakubi ububele bakho. Ukuba umntu uyakukhohlisa, akufuneki ubuyele kulo mntu, kodwa nangona oku kubonakala kucacile, ayibikho xa kubandakanyeka uthando.
Ukukopa xa ukuthandana kunokuba sesona sizathu sikhulu sokuphula uxinzelelo lweemvakalelo, kwaye kungenxa yokuba ukukopa kubudlelwane yenye yezona zinto zimbi iqabane lakho elinokukwenza zona. Abanye abantu xa bekhohlisiwe ngamaqabane abo benza i-adventure yokubuyela nabo becinga ukuba abasayi kuphinda baphinde. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uphephe izangqa ezinetyhefu, ukuba ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba ngekhe baphinde bakwenzakalise, kuya kufuneka ugcine ezinye izinto engqondweni ukuze ungabaxoleli kwakhona, okanye uya kwenzakala kwakhona.
Xa umxolela kwaye aphinde akuqhathe, akakufanelanga
Ukuba umntu uyakuqhatha, ufumanisa ukuba, uyamxolela ... aphinde akuqhathe, kwenzeka ntoni? Ukuba loo mntu akakufanelanga kwaye akufuneki uchithe ixesha kolo lwalamano, ilula njengaleyo. Akakuthandi, kuba ukuba ebekwenzile ngekhe akuqhathe kwaye ahloniphe ubudlelwane bakho. Kodwa kukuba nokuba ukukhohlisile kwakanye, ngubani oxelela ukuba akanakuphinda ayenze nokuba ufunge kangakanani ukuba uyazisola?
Sukundivumela ukuba ndikulawule ngokwasemphefumlweni, Kwaye akakuxhamli kuba xa ukhohlisiwe kwaye awufuni ukukuqonda, isiphoso sokuqhubeka nokubandezeleka sesakho kuphela. Zithande kwaye uzihloniphe kwaye ungavumeli ezo ntlobo zabantu ukuba zibekho ebomini bakho!
Ukuba uxoka kuwe ephindaphinda ... uya kuyenza kwakhona
Ubuxoki bufana nenkohliso, xa ufumanisa ukuba uziva ngathi kukho into engaphakathi kuwe eyaphukileyo kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukuba zonke iziqwenga zibuyiselwe ndawonye. Umntu oxokayo uxoka kaninzi, ungumntu onetyhefu ongafanelanga ukuba kubomi bakho. Ukuba uyaxoka kuwe kwaye emva kokumfumanisa ukuba ucela uxolo lwakho, ukuxelela ukuba uyaxolisa kodwa ukuba uyile nto ayithandayo ebomini, uya kumkholelwa. Kodwa ungamvumeli akuxokise kabini, nditsho nangezinto ezingenamsebenzi (ngaphandle kokuba ulungiselela itheko elothusayo kuwe kwaye kufuneka ukhohliswe okwethutyana, kule meko akukho ngxaki).
Kodwa kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba isiseko esibalulekileyo kuthando njengabantu abatshatileyo yintlonipho kwaye ukuba umntu ukuxokisile okanye uyakukhohlisa, zindlela ezimbini ezigabadeleyo zokungazihloniphi, kwaye ngekhe umthande umntu ukuba awumhloniphi, Musa ukunika uthando lwakho kumntu ongaziyo ukuba angakuxabisa njani!
Kwaye ukuba uthe ekugqibeleni waqonda ukuba ufanelwe ngcono, ungacingi kabini, ulonwabo kunye nesidima sakho siza kuqala.