Xa ungakulungelanga ukuba nolwalamano olunzulu ngenxa yokuba ufuna inkululeko yakho kakhulu, ukuzimela okanye ngenxa yokuba uziva ungazithembanga kwaye usoyika ukuqala ubudlelwane obunothando, usenokuba unabo okanye unabahlobo bakho abanamalungelo. Kungenzeka ukuba unomhlobo olungileyo, ukuba uziva utsaleleka ngokwesondo kodwa awufuni ukonakalisa ubuhlobo bakho obuhle ... kwaye uba ngumhlobo onamalungelo phantse ngokungacwangciswanga.
Abahlobo abanamalungelo luhlobo lobudlelwane olunokuba neenzuzo kunye nokungalunganga. Kuxhomekeka kuhlobo lomntu onguye, olu lwalamano lunokuba sisiqabu kuwe okanye intliziyo eyaphukileyo ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba ungumntu onovakalelo, kuya kuba nzima kakhulu kuwe ukuphelisa olu hlobo lobudlelwane ngelixa "umhlobo" wakho enokuyenza ngokulula, kungenjalo ... into eya kubangela ukuba enye okanye enye yonakaliswe ngokweemvakalelo.
Abahlobo abanamalungelo banokuphela ngeendlela ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, abanye abantu baphelela kubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kwaye batshata, ngelixa abanye behlala bengabahlobo okanye bephelisa ubudlelwane ngonaphakade. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ngaphambi kokuqala ubudlelwane kunye namalungelo wazi izinto ezithile ezibalulekileyo kwaye uyeke ukuba nazo ukuba ubuthathaka okanye ukuba ukhawuleza uthabatheke ziimvakalelo zakho.
Ungayivumeli ingene ebomini bakho
Ukuba ngenene ungumhlobo onamalungelo kwaye ayingomhlobo othenjiweyo, ke ungamvumeli ukuba achithe ixesha kunye nawe okanye angenelele ebomini bakho ukuba ayisiyiyo le uyifunayo. Ukuba uchitha ubusuku kunye naye kwaye emva koko ufuna ukugoduka, hamba. Ngaphandle koko, omnye waba babini uya kuba uyazikhohlisa ngokucinga ukuba bubudlelwane xa kungenjalo.
Zibekele imida
Seka ulwalamano kwimida kwaye musa ukuchitha ixesha elininzi naloo mntu ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukubuguqula obu buhlobo kunye namalungelo kubudlelwane nento enenzuzo enkulu. Sukuvumela "umhlobo" wakho akuxhakamfule nakuqala, jonga ebomini bakho hayi kuloo mntu. Khumbula ukuba kutheni unoluhlobo lobudlelwane, lolonwabo kuphela, hayi ukwenza ubudlelwane obuqinileyo. Ukuba kukho into etshintshayo, kuya kufuneka uyitshintshe indlela ojonga ngayo kwaye uqiniseke ukuba omnye umntu uziva ngokufanayo.
Lawula iimvakalelo zakho
Kulula ukuthandana nomntu owabelana naye ngamaxesha abathandanayo kunye nesondo. Kodwa ukuba nobabini anifuni ukuguqula iitafile kwaye nifuna nje ubudlelwane babahlobo abanamalungelo, sukuvumela iimvakalelo zakho zikwenzakalise. Ukuba obo budlelwane abunakamva kwaye kukuzonwabisa nje kunye, kuya kufuneka ugcine iimvakalelo zakho xa uchitha ixesha naye. Khetha umntu onomdla kuwe ngokwasemzimbeni hayi ngengqondo. Yintoni egqithisile, kuphephe ukumxelela ukusondelelana okanye iingxaki ebomini bakho, injongo yakhe kukonwabela kwaye angakuqondi ngokwasemphefumlweni.
Gcina olo lwalamano luyimfihlo
Usapho kunye nabahlobo bakho abayi kuqonda ukuba unomhlobo onamalungelo, ke banokukugweba. Abantu bathanda uthando lwemveli ke ubuhlobo kunye nesondo kunzima kwabaninzi ukuba babuqonde. Ukuba ugcina imfihlo ungawaphepha amatyala, iingxaki zosapho kunye nokuhleba. Bubomi bakho, lukhetho lwakho kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu ekufuneka ebuqonde okanye abamkele.