Akukho lula ukukhulisa abantwana, lento ukuba ungutata okanye umama uyayazi kwaye uyazi kakuhle. Ngale ndlela, nangona ingekho lula, ikwanomvuzo kwaye enye into ayithathi kwenye. Njengotata noomama kodwa nanjengabantu abadala, kufuneka sizazi iingcinga zethu, nokuba ngamanye amaxesha… ziyaphazamiseka.
Xa kuziwa ekukhuliseni abantwana abancinci, sonke sineengcinga ... nokuba ezinye awunakulungela ukuzithetha ngokuvakalayo ngenxa yoko abanye banokukucinga. Kodwa ungakhathazeki kakhulu kuba ziingcinga eziqhelekileyo, nangona zisoyikeka, kodwa ziqhelekile ... Into ebalulekileyo kukuba kamva uyazi indlela yokuhambisa kwakhona ukuze ezo ngcinga zingakuthathi okanye indlela oziphatha ngayo ebantwaneni bakho.
Iingcinga ezoyikekayo owakha wanazo
- Ngaba azinakubuyiselwa? Kukho iintsuku ezingalawulekiyo onqwenela ukuba kubekho umgaqo-nkqubo wokubuyiswa okanye wokutshintshiselana wabantwana bakho ... Kodwa akukho mibuzo ibuziweyo, tyikitya nje usebenze.
- Cwaka ngoku NCEDA. Uyayicinga, kodwa awubaxeleli, kuba uyazi ukuba abantwana kufuneka bathethe kwaye bakuchazele izinto zabo, oko bakufumanisayo malunga nehlabathi, nokuba intloko yakho iza kuqhuma (imizekelo: kutheni amafu mhlophe? yitya namhlanje? Zilala nini izinambuzane? Litya ntoni ibhabhathane? Ziphi iislippers zam? Mama, mama, mama, mama ...) Ukuba ufuna ndikuthembe ndikuxelele ngezinto xa ndimdala, wena Kuya kufuneka ndiyigcine isitshixo esisezantsi.
- Nceda ulale ngoku, ndifuna uxolo lwengqondo. Ngubani ongenayo le mihla? Ewe, le ngcinga yeyona ixhaphakileyo emhlabeni. Ewe, nawe xa abantwana bakho belele, ucima isandi sikamabonwakude, uvale amehlo akho kwaye wonwabele ukuthula ...
- Hayi, awunakuba ngunyana wam. Kubonakala ngakumbi ngathi ngunyana kasathana ... Kodwa hayi, awuyenzi. Ngenxa yokuba uyazi ukuba i-genetics yeyakho kwaye loo mlinganiswa ... KWAKHO.
- Uyihlo (okanye umama) bekufanele ukuba ungomnye umntu. Kwaye ke imfuza ayinakudlala iqhinga kumlingiswa. Kodwa hayi, ngekhe utsho ngokuvakalayo.
- Ndingumama ombi (okanye utata). Le ngcinga yeyona ixhaphakileyo kwaye ayinyani ekhoyo, kuba yonke imihla ulwela ukuba ngutata okanye umama ongcono kwaye abantwana bakho bonwabe. Kuyinyani ukuba loo mvakwemini yesiphithiphithi, mhlawumbi ukushiya kwakhe icwecwe ibingeso sigqibo sihle kodwa ngekukubi ngakumbi ukuba luvo lwakho luqhume. Uhlala ucinga ngokulungelwa kwabantwana bakho, hayi eyakho eyedwa, loo nto ayinguye utata okanye umama ombi!
Ungazihambisa njani kwakhona ezo ngcinga
Ukuba uhlangabezana nezi ntlobo zeengcinga, ungothuki, awunalo naluphi na uhlobo lokuphazamiseka kwengqondo ... ungumzali odiniweyo kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ungazivumeli ezi ngcinga zikuhlasele kakhulu kwaye xa zisenzeka, thatha umoya, ubale ukuya kwishumi kwaye ujonge emehlweni abantwana bakho ... Awudingi ngaphezulu ukuze wonwabe ngokwenyani. Bakwicala lakho kwaye bayakuthanda ngaphezu kwayo nayiphi na into kweli hlabathi.