Namhlanje baninzi abantu basetyhini abalinde ngakumbi ukuba nabantwana ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo. Izizathu zihlala zizezakho kwaye akufuneki zikwenze uzive ukuba lixesha lokuba ungaphaya kweminyaka engama-35 ubudala kwaye awukabinabo abantwana. Baninzi ngakumbi abantu basetyhini abafikelela kwiminyaka engama-40 ubudala ngaphandle kokuba ngoomama, nangona befuna ukuba ngoomama ngaxa lithile ebomini babo.
Ukufumana umntwana kamva ebomini kunemiceli mngeni emikhulu kuba umzimba wakho awukho mncinci kwaye unokuba nokukhulelwa okunzima kunye nokubeleka. Awuyi kuba namandla afanayo ngokungathi uneminyaka engama-20 ubudala, kodwa Zininzi nezinye izibonelelo zokuba ngumama emva kweminyaka engama-35 okanye engama-40.
Unobomi bomsebenzi obumiselweyo
Kuya kufuneka ulinde ukuze ube ngumama ukuseka ikhondo lomsebenzi wobuchwephesha, kodwa oku kuyinzuzo kuwe, kuba kuya kuthetha ukuba uya kuba nomsebenzi ozinzileyo. Mhlawumbi unomsebenzi ozinzileyo kunye nenethiwekhi yabalingane abakuxhasayo ukuze ube nakho amathuba amaninzi okuba bhetyebhetye emsebenzini wakho xa ukhulelwa.
Mhlawumbi usebenze kule nkampani inye ngaphezulu kweminyaka eli-10 kwaye xa ukhulelwa, wonke umntu uyayiqonda kwaye akakukhathazi. Okanye, usenokuba ulinde ukuba ngumama ukuze ukwazi ukonga xa unokukhulelwa kwaye uthathe ikhefu lokuya kubeleka okanye uyeke emsebenzini ukuze unyamekele abantwana bakho. Ityala ngalinye lilizwe!
Unexesha elininzi lokufunda malunga nokuba ngumama.
Mhlawumbi abahlobo bakho, oodadewenu okanye abantakwenu sele bengabazali kwaye baye bakwazi ukunika izimvo malunga nokuba yintoni ukuba ngutata okanye umama. Nangona amava okuba ngumama enikwa kuphela ngokuba mnye, mabaxelele amava okuqala lithuba lokuba nolwazi olongezelelekileyo oluya kukwazisa ngendlela yokwenza okanye into oza kuthatha isigqibo ngayo xa ungumama.
Kwanaxa uthatha isigqibo sokuqala ukukhangela umntwana neqabane lakho, ungasebenzisa elo xesha nokuthetha nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho kwaye ubacebise ngayo yonke into ekufuneka uyazi ngalo naliphi na ixesha.
Awuyi kunika ukubaluleka kwezinto ezingabalulekanga
Ukuba sele unabantwana abaninzi kwaye unosana lwakho lokugqibela emva kweminyaka engama-40, kuya kubakho izinto ezininzi ezingasayi kukukhathaza ngenxa yokuba zingasabalulekanga kuba uyazi ukuphatha kakuhle. Xa ungumama omtsha emva kweminyaka engama-40 kunye nabantwana, uya kunika ukubaluleka kwezinye izinto, Kodwa ukuba ukhe wangumama ngaphambili, uya kuba namava aneleyo okubeka phambili kwezona zinto zibalulekileyo.
Ukuba ungumama omtsha emva kweminyaka engama-35 okanye engama-40, uyazi ukuba awuzukuba naxhala kakhulu malunga namanqanaba okukhula kuba abantwana kufuneka babe nesingqisho sabo sokuzivelela kwezinto. Kwaye ukuba unamathandabuzo, uyazi ukuba into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukucela iingcali.
Ezi zezinye zezibonelelo onokuzifumana ukuba ungumama osele ekhulile, Oko kukuthi, emva kweminyaka engama-35. Kodwa awufanelanga ukuba nexhala kuba ngonyango olululo kunye nendlela yokuphila esempilweni, ukukhulelwa kwakho kunye nokubeleka kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwakhona, ukuba xa ungumama ufuna ukhathalelo lweemvakalelo, kuya kufuneka ube nenethiwekhi efanelekileyo yokuxhasa ukuze babe secaleni kwakho nanini na xa uyifuna kwaye ukuba kufanelekile, yiya kugqirha ukuze uthunyelwe kwingcali eyimfuneko.
Ukuba awukabi ngumama kwaye ufuna ukuqala ukukhangela, yiya kugqirha wakho kwaye uyokucebisa ngamanyathelo omele ukuwalandela ukuze ukhulelwe usempilweni kwaye ubeleke nangcono.