Baninzi abazali abacinga ukuba banokugqibelela xa imfezeko ingekho. Xa unezi ngcinga, kulula kuwe ukuba uzive usilele. Xa ubambe umntwana wakho ezandleni zakho okokuqala kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba intliziyo yakho iqhume ibe ngamawakawaka ... luthando oluninzi oziva ngalo. Awuzange ucinge ngaphambili ukuba intliziyo yakho ingaziva amandla angaphaya komnye umntu, kwaye uthando luya kuqhubeka lukhula mihla le.
Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ngamanye amaxesha ukhathazeka ukuba ungumzali olungileyo ngokwaneleyo. Njengomzuzu owoyikekayo ofowunelwe sisikolo ucela intlanganiso yomzali ukuba ithethe ngokuziphatha kwabantwana bakho, okanye okubi kakhulu, xa unxibelelwano luphazamiseka kwaye uye waba lutshaba lomntwana wakho ofikisayo.
Zihambe nini izinto?
Ukuba inokuphinda yenzeke kwaye ibuye ngexesha, ubuya umva ngaphaya kwazo zonke iimpazamo ozenzileyo ukuzilungisa, kodwa ngelishwa, ayinakwenziwa. Akukho nto unokuyenza gwenxa, akukho nto injengokugqibelela kwaye kuya kubakho iintsuku ezingcono nezibi. Ungaze ucinge ukuba uyasilela ekukhuliseni abantwana bakho, kuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba yonke imihla uzama ukwenza ngcono kancinci.
Ukuba wenza impazamo, ukuba unomsindo okanye nokuba uphakamisa ilizwi lakho kuyinto eqhelekileyo ... awufezekanga kwaye akufuneki ukuba ube. Ukuzama ukuba ngutata okanye umama ogqibeleleyo kuyadinisa kakhulu, into efunekayo kukuba uzame ukuba nguwe. Hayi kwakhona.
Kutheni kunzima kangaka nje ukuba ngumzali ogqibeleleyo?
Baninzi abazali abakholelwa ekubeni banokuba ngutata ogqibeleleyo, kodwa oku akunjalo. Uthando olungenamiqathango ngumthombo wolonwabo kuwe, kubantwana bakho nakusapho lwakho. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuqhubela phambili kusapho kwaye wonwabe ngeentsuku. Nangona besazi oku, baninzi abazali abaziva bengonwabanga.
Ukuthintela oku, kubalulekile ukwamkela ubunzima bemihla ngemihla xa besiza. Konke oku kuqala ngothando kunye nokuzikhathalela. Xa uziva wonwabile ngawe kunye nokusingqongileyo, ukukhulisa abantwana bakho kuya kuba lula kakhulu, nangona oku kungakukhululi kumaxesha anzima mihla le. Uthando aluze luchithwe.
Yamkela inyani
Kuyimfuneko ukuba wamkele inyani kwaye uqonde ukuba awufanelanga kwaye akufuneki ugqibelele kwaye ngokwenyani, akukho tata okanye umama. Nje ukuba ukwamkele oku, uya kuziva ukhululekile kunye nenkululeko entliziyweni yakho eya kukunceda ukuba uzole / kwaye uqonde ukuba ungazenza ngcono izinto ukuba ubeka ingqondo yakho kubo.
Zonke iimpazamo ngamathuba okuphucula kunye nokufunda, ke sukukhathazeka xa usenza impazamo. Cela uxolelo ukuba uyafuna kwaye qhubela phambili ufunda phambili kwiimpazamo ungaphoswa zizixhobo ezintathu:
- Yamkele into yokuba ulunge kakhulu
- Yiba bhetyebhetye ukuze ikamva lakho elihle lenzeke kuwe.
- Khetha uthando ngokugqibeleleyo.