Kuqhelekile ukuba xa usebudlelwaneni unamathandabuzo malunga nokuba ingaba ubudlelwane bakho buhamba kakuhle, ukuba wenza yonke into oyifunayo ukuze uyenze isebenze okanye ukuba iqabane lakho likubuyisela ngothando olufanayo omnika lona. Ezi nkxalabo zinokuba yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba azithathi ingqondo yakho kwaye ungalawula kwaye uphendule yonke into ehamba ngentloko yakho.
Ukukhathazeka okungenanto vs. Iinkxalabo ezinzulu
Kubalulekile ukoyisa ezi nkxalabo kunye noloyiko, kodwa nokuzijonga ngqo kwaye wazi ukuba kutheni zisenzeka. Ngokwenza njalo, uya kuba nakho ukufumanisa ukuba yintoni ukuqonda kwakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ezizama ukukuxelela. Ezinye izinto ezixhalabisayo zizimpawu ezilumkisayo ezikukhuselayo kwaye ziyinxalenye yeconscious yakho.. Ezi nkxalabo zithathwa njengezinto ezinzulu kwaye zikwazisa ngeeflegi ezibomvu kunye nezinto oziqapheleyo ezikukhathazayo.
Unokubona utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha, ulwimi lomzimba, ilizwi, okanye nayiphi na into enokubangela inkxalabo ebonakala ngathi inengqiqo, iyavakala kwaye iyinyani. Nangona kunjalo, eli candelo lilandelayo libalulekile. Kukwabalulekile ukwazi ukuba amaxhala akho ngamanye amaxesha ayindlela yokuzikhusela ekubeni sesichengeni okanye ekuvuleleni abanye.
Oku kujongwa njengexhala elingenanto. Oko kukuthi, yinkxalabo eqhelekileyo, kodwa ayimfuneko, inengqiqo, iyenzeka, iyinyani, okanye iyavakala. Nangona kunjalo, Badlala ngoloyiko kubudlelwane babo, amava adlulileyo nolunye ulwalamano, okanye banestres nje.
Yiba yinkosi yexhala lakho
Kubalulekile ukuba ujonge ngaphakathi kuwe ukuze wazi umahluko phakathi kweengxaki ezingenanto nezinzulu. Ukuba ufunda ukwahlula phakathi kwezi zinto zimbini, awuyi kubuthintela ubudlelwane bakho, awuyi kuba noxinzelelo okanye uzixakekise kakhulu. Endaweni yoko, uya kuba yinkosi yamaxhala akho.
Xa uzama ukwahlula phakathi kwezi zimbini, kungcono ukucinga ngokuqiqileyo nangokuzola ngayo nayiphi na into ekukhathazayo. Ngokwenza oku, unokuba nengqondo ecacileyo. Emva koko cinga ngezinto ezikukhathazayo, emva koko ucinge ngendlela oziphethe ngayo kwezi veki zimbalwa zidlulileyo. Kuya kufuneka ubone ukuba unokuba nosuku olubi kuba yonke into ibigqibelele izolo, okanye ukuba ubusebenza ngale ndlela ixesha elide kunokuba ubucinga.
Emva koko kuya kufuneka uthathe isigqibo sokuba ngaba le nkxalabo iyenziwa ngenxa yoloyiko lwakho okanye iyenzeka ngenene. Kuya kufuneka ujonge ukuba ingaba yinto ekufanele ukuba ukhathazekile ngayo, okanye ukuba wenza nje ngale ndlela ngenxa yezinye izinto ebomini bakhe. Ezinye zezi zinto zinokuba ngumsebenzi, impilo, ubomi bosapho, isikolo, okanye kwanongquzulwano lwakho lwangaphakathi.
Nje ukuba ulandele la manyathelo, kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhathazeke malunga nolwalamano lwakho, ukuba yonke into isentloko yakho, okanye ukuba iqabane lakho lenza into eyenzeka ebomini babo. Xa ujonga inkxalabo eqhelekileyo enabafazi kubudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuba wazi ukuba ewe, ziqhelekile, Kodwa uninzi lunokuthintelwa ngokunxibelelana nokuthembela kwiqabane lakho.
Ukongeza kwezi nkxalabo zikhankanywe apha ngasentla, ezinye izinto ezixhaphakileyo ezixhalabisayo ziyazibuza ukuba ingaba uyazibamba na, ukuba uyabaphoxa, ukuba kufanelekile, kwaye ukuba zichanekile na. Enye inkxalabo eqhelekileyo iyazibuza ukuba kutheni besebenza kude kangaka. Amaxhala aqhelekile, kodwa okubalulekileyo kukuba uyazi ukuba ungajongana njani nawo.