Andiqondi ukuba ukhona umzali emhlabeni (osezingqondweni) ofuna ukujonga abantwana bakhe ngokungazithembi okanye ukuzithemba okuphantsi. Kodwa ngelishwa oku akusoloko kunjalo kwaye asinakufumana yonke into esiyifunayo. Baninzi kakhulu abantwana abangazithembiyo kwaye njengabazali ngumsebenzi wethu ukuzalisa lo msantsa ukuze baqonde ukuba banokuzithemba, kuba ukuba bafuna banokuphumeza nantoni na abazimisele ukuyenza!
Ukuba unonyana okanye intombi, nokuba yinkwenkwe okanye ikwishumi elivisayo, Nazi ezinye zeendlela eziluncedo zokunyusa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye ngale ndlela ukuzithemba kwakho kuyaphucuka kwaye kunethuba elikhulu lokuphumelela kwixa elizayo. Ungalahli iinkcukacha kwaye ukhumbule ukuba ungoyena mzekelo mhle kuye, oyena titshala ubalaseleyo kunye nenkxaso yakhe engenamiqathango. Bayakudinga abantwana bakho!
Yamkele indlela abavakalelwa ngayo
Njengawe, umntwana wakho naye uneemvakalelo kwaye ukuba ngenye imini uyambona elusizi kubalulekile ukuba uyithathele ingqalelo le nto yenzekayo kuye kwaye uzame ukufumana ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kuye okanye kutheni uziva udandathekile. Ke, ukuba uyamnceda umntwana wakho ayifumane kunye naye, uya kufunda ukufumanisa eyona ngxaki kwaye ajonge kwizisombululo endaweni yokujolisa kwiingxaki ezisisiseko.
Mncede abone ubunyani
Abantwana, njengabanye abantu abadala, badla ngokuba ngabagxeki babo xa beziva ngathi abafezekisi imigangatho efanelekileyo (amaxesha amaninzi loo migangatho ayinakwenzeka kwaye ayinangqondo) esekwe eluntwini, into eya kuthi ibhatale imali eninzi ukuzithemba kwabo. Kwelinye icala, ukuba njengotata okanye umama unikezela umbono oqinisekileyo kunye nethemba ngakumbi malunga nokwenzekayo ngokwenene, emva koko ungazitshintsha ngokukhawuleza iingcinga zakho zibe zezokwenene. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ukhalaza ukuba ungumfundi owoyikisayo, menze abone ukuba ungumfundi olungileyo kodwa kufuneka achithe ixesha elithe kratya efunda isifundo esithile.
Ungaze umthelekise
Ukuthelekiswa kunenzondo ke awusoze wamthelekisa nabantakwabo okanye nabanye abantwana ehlabathini. Ngokususa uthelekiso, uyamnceda ukuba azithembe kwaye anciphise usukuzwano phakathi kwabantakwenu kunye nabanye abantu. Awuyi kudinga ukungqina nantoni na emhlabeni Kwaye uya kuba nakho ukungqina ixabiso lakho lokwenyani.
Ungaphuthelwa kukuncoma okufanelekileyo
Abazali bahlala besetyenziselwa ukuxelela abantwana ukuba bazenza kakubi kangakanani izinto kwaye kufuneka bazenze njani ngcono (okanye ngendlela yabo). Kodwa ngelishwa bayalibala eyona nto ibalulekileyo: bancome xa besenza izinto kakuhle.. Ukuba ufuna ukuxhasa ukuzithemba komntwana wakho kwaye umamele ngokwenene Kwaye ungayeki ukuyenza kuba uhlala umthethisa, kuyafuneka ukuba umncome xa esenza izinto kakuhle kwaye kufanelekile.
Kodwa kungcono ukuyenza ngakumbi xa kukho abanye abantu abadala phambi kwakho kwaye bayayazi indlela oziqhuba kakuhle ngayo izinto. Konwabele ukubonisa njengomntwana kwaye ubonise umntwana wakho ukuba awuthethi ngenjongo yokuzandisa ukuzithemba kwakhe, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uyakholelwa ngokwenene.
Yenza imeko-bume entle ekhaya
Bathi imeko yekhaya ibaluleke kakhulu emntwaneni ukuze azithembe. Kufuneka kubekho imeko-bume entle ekhaya apho unakho yenza ukuzithemba okuhle ebantwaneni kwaye unakho nokuzivavanya ukuba ungubani kwaye hayi oko anako.
Ngaba uyamnceda unyana wakho ukuba nokuzithemba okungcono kunye nokukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakhe?