Xa kuziwa ekubeni nobudlelwane obunempilo nomnye umntu kubalulekile ukuseka uluhlu lwemida ngaphakathi kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukubeka loo mida akungomsebenzi olula okanye olula kuye nabani na oneqabane. Ubunzima buvela ngenxa yokuba imida ekhankanywe ngasentla kufuneka ifune, kwelinye icala, impilo-ntle yabantu bobabini kwaye, kwelinye, ubudlelwane ngokwalo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sikunika izikhokelo eziyimfuneko ukuseka imida kubudlelwane obuphilileyo kunye nokufezekisa intlalontle ethile kuyo.
Imida phakathi kwesibini
Ukumisela imida phakathi kobudlelwane akukho nto ngaphandle kokwazisa umntu omthandayo ukuba nangona kunokubakho iminqweno okanye ukhetho olwahlukileyo kolwabo, Intlonipho ikhona ngamaxesha onke kwisibini. Akukho mntu ulunge ngakumbi kunomnye ekubeni imbeko nokulungelelana kumele kubekho ngalo lonke ixesha. Imida phakathi kwesibini yinto eluncedo kakhulu kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane:
- Masibeke ecaleni kakhulu ukuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nokukhohlisa phakathi kwesibini.
- Unxibelelwano luninzi kakhulu phakathi kwabantu bobabini, into eluncedo kakhulu kubudlelwane.
- Yandisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba yesibini
- Ukunciphisa amanqanaba oxinzelelo ziveliswa yonke imihla.
- masigcine ubudlelwane obunempilo ngokupheleleyo.
Indlela yokubeka imida phakathi kwesibini
Kukho uluhlu lwezikhokelo okanye iingcebiso onokuthi uzilandele xa useka imida ethile phakathi kobudlelwane:
- Imida ifanele ibekwe ngamaxesha afanelekileyo kwisibini. Akufani nokuwaseka xa imimoya iphezu komhlaba kunaxa bobabini abantu bekhululekile kwaye besamkela ngokupheleleyo.
- Imida isekwe ukwenzela ukuba ubudlelwane bube sempilweni kangangoko kwaye buhlala ixesha elide. Luvavanyo lokwenyani lothando nentlonipho ngakuwe na komnye umntu.
- Xa umisela imida, kubalulekile ukugcina umgama othile phakathi kokunyathela ngokweemvakalelo kwisibini kunye neemfuno ekufuneka ubudlelwane bube nazo ukuze kuphunyezwe inqanaba elithile lentlalontle ngaphakathi kwalo. Nangona iyinto enokubiza ekuqaleni, unganqikazi ukwenza i-detachment kumntu othandekayo kunye nokuseka ngokutyibilikayo imida ekhankanywe ngasentla kubudlelwane.
- Xa ubeka imida, kubalulekile ukunyaniseka nokunyaniseka kwisiqu sakho. Akunakwenzeka ukwenza ngathi isibini siyayihlonela imida ukuba asikwazi ukuhlonipha imida yaso.
Ngamafutshane, imida phakathi kwayo nayiphi na ubudlelwane ayinayo enye injongo ngaphandle kokufezekisa ukuba isibini sinyamezele ekuhambeni kwexesha kwaye sibe sempilweni kangangoko. Kubalulekile ukuba oku kuzalisekiswe, kukho intlonipho yomntu ngamnye ukuba athobele imida emiselwe liqabane lakhe. Asiyonto ilula okanye ilula ukuyiseka, nangona iyinto ebalulekileyo xa isibini sisebenza kuzo zonke iinkalo.