Ukuba uqaphela ukuba unokuzithemba kwaye kuyakuchaphazela kakhulu ebomini bakho, uneendaba ezimnandi: ukuba ufuna ukoyisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi, ungakufezekisa. Kukho izinto ezimbini eziphambili ekulweni lo mfanekiso ungathandekiyo. Okokuqala kukuyeka ukumamela ilizwi lakho elingaphakathi elibalulekileyo. Okwesibini kukuqala ukuziqhelanisa nemfesane.
Yeka ukumamela umgxeki wakho wangaphakathi
Ilizwi elingaphakathi elibalulekileyo lelokuba lowo ujonge ngaphakathi ozigweba iingcinga zethu kunye nezenzo zethu ngokulusizi. Esi sigxeki sangaphakathi singathandekiyo sihlala sisigxeka ngeengcinga ezimbi ngathi nangabantu abasingqongileyo. Hlala uqinisekisa ukuzithemba kwakho ngeengcinga ezinje:
- "Usisidenge."
- "Utyebile."
- "Akukho mntu uyakuthanda."
- “Ufanele uthule. Ngalo lonke ixesha uthetha, uzenza isidenge.
- Kutheni le nto ungafani nabanye abantu?
- "Awunaxabiso"
Ukoyisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi, kubalulekile ukuba uzicel 'umngeni ezi ngcinga zingalunganga kwaye ujongane nomgxeki wakho wangaphakathi. Inyathelo lokuqala kukuqonda xa uqala ukucinga ngezi ntlobo zeengcinga ezimbi ngawe.
Emva koko unokukhetha ukungamameli ukubulala okungokwengqondo okanye iingcebiso ezimbi ezivela kumgxeki wakho wangaphakathi. Kunokuba luncedo ukucinga ukuba ungaziva njani ukuba omnye umntu ebethetha ezi zinto kuwe; Uya kuziva unomsindo kwaye ubaxelele ukuba bathule okanye bachaze ukuba bayaphazama ngawe. Thatha le ndlela xa uphendula kumgxeki wakho wangaphakathi.
Enye indlela yokwenza oku kukubhala zonke izikhalazo zakho zangaphakathi kwelinye icala lephepha. Emva koko bhala uvavanyo olunokwenene nolunemfesane kwelinye icala. Umzekelo, ukuba ubhala ukugxeka okufana "Usisiyatha," ungabhala: Ngamanye amaxesha ndinokuba nobunzima, kodwa ndikrelekrele kwaye ndinobuchule ngeendlela ezininzi.
Ukucela umngeni kumgxeki wakho wangaphakathi kunceda ukuyeka ukuhlazeka okunyusa ukuzithemba okuphantsi. Xa uqaphela ilizwi elingaphakathi elibalulekileyo njengomthombo wokuzihlasela ngokwakho, ungaqala ukujongana nomgxeki wangaphakathi kwaye ubone ukuba ungubani kanye kanye.
Qala ukuziqhelanisa nemfesane
Ngeendlela ezininzi, unyango lokuzigxeka kukuzisizela. Ukuzisizela kukuziqhelanisa nokuziphatha njengomhlobo! Yindlela entle yokwakha ukuzithemba ngakumbi kuwe. Uphando lubonakalisile ukuba uvelwano lwakho lungcono kwimpilo yakho yengqondo kunokuzithemba.
Imfesane yokuzikhethela ayisekelwanga kuvavanyo okanye isigwebo; kunokuba, kusekwe kwisimo sengqondo sobubele kunye nokwamkelwa ngokwakho. Ngelixa oku kunokuvakala kulula, ukunyanga ngemfesane kunye nobubele kunokuba ngumceli mngeni ekuqaleni. Nangona kunjalo, Uya kuphuhlisa ngakumbi imfesane ngokwakho njengoko uziqhelanisa nexesha.
Nanga amanyathelo amathathu okuziqhelisa:
- Yazisa kwaye uqaphele ukubandezeleka kwakho.
- Yiba nobubele kwaye ukhathalele ekuphenduleni ukubandezeleka.
- Khumbula ukuba ukungafezeki yinxalenye yamava omntu kunye nento sonke esabelana ngayo.
Ukusukela ngoku ukuya phambili, uya kuba nezicwangciso ezingaphezulu zokoyisa ukuzithemba okuphantsi kwaye uqonde ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza yonke into ozibekele yona, ukwamkela kuqala ukuba unjani.