Iimpawu zokuba iqabane lakho lidlala ngothando nabanye abantu

Ukudlala ngothando akufuneki kube yinto embi xa kusenziwa nje ngendlela yokuba nobubele kwabanye nokuhlonipha iqabane lakho. Kodwa mhlawumbi, ucinga ukuba iqabane lakho liye laya kwelinye inyathelo kwaye udlala ngothando kwinqanaba apho uziva ngathi akakuhloniphi. Ngaba ngokwenene udlala ngothando?

Iimpawu zokuba iqabane lakho lidlala ngothando nabanye

Ngena kwindawo yakho yabanye

Iimpawu ezifihlakeleyo zokubona zixhomekeke xa bethetha, bachukumisana okanye baphathaphathane amaxesha ngamaxesha okanye ngokudlala babethana. Kodwa kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba akangomntu anokuzithemba kuye, kuba Oku kunokuba yinto eqhelekileyo kubantu abazithembileyo okanye abanokwazana iminyaka.

Ukuqhagamshelana ixesha elide

Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokudibana ngamehlo. Ngapha koko, ukudibana kwamehlo kuyakhuthazeka xa abantu ababini benxibelelana. Kodwa ukuba iqabane lakho litshintshiselana ngokukhawuleza nabanye abantu, okanye libajongile ixesha elide, kuya kufuneka uvavanye okwenzekayo.

Ncuma kakhulu

Ukumomotheka kwabanye abantu kunobuhlobo kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba uqaphela iqabane lakho libonisa umtsalane kunye nokumomotheka ngale ndlela inomdla (eyakha yenza amadolo akho aba buthathaka) kwabanye abantu, ngakumbi ngelixa uthetha nabo, ke iqabane lakho lidlala ngothando ngokuqinisekileyo. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba omnye umntu uyabuyela kwakhona ngoncumo lwabo, ukudibana kwamehlo, kunye nolwimi lomzimba, uya kuba uyazi ukuba bayadlala.

Ngaba iphambi kwakho

Isimilo sakhe sokudlala ngothando asiyonto iqhelekileyo. Kwenzeka lonke ixesha, nokuba kukwetheko, ivenkile yokutyela, okanye kunye nabazala bakho. Ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala lihoya abanye abantu basetyhini kwaye libaqhatha nabo ngencoko yabo, ngolwimi lwabo lomzimba, nangomtsalane ongenakuphikiswa.

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Fumana umbono

Ewe ukuba wenza oku ngalo lonke ixesha amathuba okuba umthande xa wayethandana nawe okanye ukuqala kwakho ukudibana naye ulithandile eli candelo lakhe. Ke ngoku kutshintshe ntoni? Kuya kufuneka ukuba uvavanye indlela oziva ngayo malunga nemeko kwaye ngoba. Jonga ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye ubuze ukuba uziva ungonwabanga ngenxa yokungazithembi okwenzileyo.

Ngaba unomona ngenxa yokuba uziva ngathi awulungelanga ukugcina ingqalelo yabo? Ngaba uziva ulilolo? Okanye mhlawumbi awuyiqondi into yakhe enomtsalane, enobuntu njengokudlala ngothando. Akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokubuza umfana othandana naye ukuba akhulule isimilo sakhe sokudlala ngothando, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba uqonde apho kufanelekileyo. Awunakho ukumcela ukuba atshintshe ubuntu bakhe, kuba loo nto ayinakulunga kwiqabane lakho. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, watsaleleka kuye kwasekuqaleni.

Cinga ngezinto ezikukhathaza ngokwenene ngaphambi kokuba uthathe elinye inyathelo ... Kuba mhlawumbi into ayenzayo kukungathembeki okufihlakeleyo okanye bubuntu bakhe kwaye uzama ukuba ulungile.