Uhlobo lokuncamathela olufunyanwa ngumntwana kubazali babo luya kuba nefuthe elithe ngqo ekuphuhliseni nasekukhuleni komntwana. Kungenxa yoko le nto kufuneka sinikele ngokubaluleka okuyimfuneko kwi-attachment exeliweyo kunye neqhina elenziwe ngexesha lobuntwana.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuncamathela ezikhoyo kunye yeempawu zomnye kubo.
Isiqhoboshelo kunye neeklasi zayo
Ukuncamathisela akukho nto ngaphandle kolwalamano oluya kusekwa phakathi komntwana nabazali bakhe. Ayizizo zonke izincamatheliso ezifanayo kuba kuya kubakho uninzi lwazo kunye neempawu zazo kunye nomahluko:
Ukuncamathiselwa okukhuselekileyo
Kolu hlobo lokuncamathela kukho unxibelelwano olukhulu kunye nokuboniswa rhoqo komsa phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Kubudlelwane obukhuselekileyo, abantwana banokuzithemba okukhulu, ekubeni besazi ukuba ababodwa nokuba bathembele kuncedo lwabazali ngamaxesha onke. Iimvakalelo kwabelwana ngazo ngabantwana nabazali ngokwabo. Kwi-attachment ekhuselekileyo, ukuzimela kunye nokuzimela kwabancinci kufunwa. Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo lolona luhlomelo lucetyiswayo nolucetyiswayo ngokunxulumene nemfundo yabantwana.
uncamathiselo olungakhuselekanga
Kolu hlobo lokuncamathela akukho miboniso mininzi kakhulu yothando phakathi kwabazali nabantwana. Oku kubangela ukungakhuseleki okukhulu kunye nokungazithembi kwabancinci, kunokukhokelela kwiimeko zokuxhalaba. Ngaphakathi kolu didi lwe-attachment kukho i-attachment e-insecure-avoidant kunye ne-insecure-anxious-ambivalent attachment. Kwimeko yokuqala, omncinci uphephela umzobo wabazali kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Kwimeko yesibini, umntwana akakwazi ukwenza naluphi na uhlobo lomsebenzi ngaphandle koncedo lwabazali bakhe kwaye ubonisa ukungabikho kokuzimela ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo.
ukuncamathela okungalungelelanisiweyo
Olu hlobo lwekhonkco ludla ngokunikezelwa kwiimeko ezifana nokuphathwa kakubi okanye ukuxhatshazwa ngabazali. Abantwana babona uyise njengomntu oyingozi, obangela unxunguphalo okanye uvalo. Olu hlobo lokuncamathela lunempembelelo embi ekuphuhlisweni kwabantwana, okubangela ukuba babandezeleke kwiingxaki ezinzulu zokuziphatha kunye nokuziphatha.
Uhlobo lokuncamathela lubuchaphazela njani ubomi babantu abadala
Kukho ubudlelwane obuthe ngqo phakathi kokuqhotyoshela abantwana abakufumana ebuntwaneni kunye nokuphuhliswa kwee-pathologies ezithile zengqondo xa befikelela ebudaleni. Kwimeko yokunamathisela okukhuselekileyo kukho ukuzinza okukhulu kwinqanaba leemvakalelo kunye nokuzithemba okunamandla kunye nokuzithemba. Oku kuya kunceda umntwana ukuba aphumelele ebomini kwaye akhule ethathela ingqalelo imilinganiselo ebalulekileyo enjengovelwano, intlonipho okanye umsa.
Kwimeko yokuncamathela okungakhuselekanga, umntwana ekufikeleleni ebudaleni unokuba neengxaki zokhuseleko kunye uphethwe zizigulo ezithile ezinxulumene nexhala okanye ukudakumba.
Ukuncamathela okungalungelelanisiweyo kunokubangela ubunzima bokulawula iimvakalelo kunye nokuxhomekeka okunamandla ngokweemvakalelo kwiqabane kumntu omdala. Kukho iimeko ezigqithisileyo apho inokuphuhla khona Iziphazamiso ezithile ezinzulu ezifana ne-bipolar.
Ngamafutshane, Ukuncamathela kunendima ebalulekileyo ekukhuleni komntu njengoko ekhula. Abazali kufuneka baqinisekise ukuba ngawo onke amaxesha benza iqhina nabantwana babo kuthando nothando kwaye bakhuthaze ukuzimela kwabantwana babo. Phakathi kweentlobo zokuncamathisela ezikhoyo, uncamathiselo olukhuselekileyo lolona lufanelekileyo ukuba lusetyenziswe ngexesha lobuntwana.