Ukuqeqesha abantwana abancinci kufuna umonde kunye nomzamo omkhulu, Kodwa abantwana baziva bethandwa kwaye bekhuselekile xa kukho imida echazwe kakuhle kwaye baya kukuhlonipha ngokumisela le mida ukuba uyenza ngothando nangobulungisa.
Ukuze uqeqeshe abantwana ngokufanelekileyo, kufuneka ube ngqongqo kwaye ungaguquguquki kubuzali bakho. Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zokuqeqesha abantwana abancinci. Akukho mntu uthi izikhokelo zoqeqesho ziya kuba lula ukuzisebenzisa, kodwa kufanelekile.
Qinisekisa ukuba iodolo iviwe kwaye yaqondwa
Icacile njengokuba iodolo imfutshane, icacile kwaye imfutshane. Abantwana kufuneka bayiqonde kakuhle le nto uyithethayo. Musa ukuthetha nabantwana bakho kwelinye igumbi, yiya kuye umxelele ukuba ulindele ntoni kuye ngalo mzuzu. Faka umfowunelwa ngamehlo kunye namagama alungileyo.
Ngqinelana nengqeqesho
Ukuba awunalo ulweyiseko kwinto oyithethayo, abantwana bakho baya kuzama ukuthetha-thethana kwaye bangabanjwa. Kuya kufuneka usoloko unemithetho efanayo, ungaguquguquki kwaye ziyafana kubo bonke abantwana bakho.
Njengabazali kufuneka nihambe kumgca omnye
Kuya kufuneka uhambe ngendlela efanayo xa kuziwa kwimfundo kunye neqabane lakho kwaye nixhasane. Ukuba ufuna ukukhulula imithetho okwethutyana, xoxa kuqala neqabane lakho emva koko nisebenzise olo tshintsho kunye. Abantwana bafunda kwangethuba kakhulu ukuba abazali banakho ukusetyenziswa. Nokuba awuvumelani nesigqibo seqabane lakho, baxhase abantwana kwaye nixoxe ngasese.
Qiniseka kwaye ukhathalele ngaxeshanye
Ukuba ufuna abantwana bakho bakumamele kwaye bakumamele, kuya kufuneka bazive besondele ngelixa ubabalisela okanye ukhumbula imithetho, ubaxelele ukuba yenzelwe impilo yabo, impilo-ntle okanye ukonwaba. Ukuba imithetho ithotyelwa kuphela ngenxa yoloyiko, Awusoze wazi ukuba umntwana ukuthobela kuba eyazi nyani ukuba uyenzela ukulungelwa kwakhe okanye kuba esoyika ukuziphindezela.
Yiba neziphumo xa uqeqesha abantwana
Ukuba umntwana wakho uyala ukulandela imigaqo, kuya kufuneka wazi ukuba kuya kubakho isiphumo esikhawulezileyo. Ukuba, umzekelo, ukuba umntwana wakho ubukele umabonwakude kwaye uqala ukutsiba esofeni, ukuba akayeki ukutsiba ngoko nangoko (kwaye umxelele ukuba ukuba uyaqhubeka angawa, angazonzakalisa okanye aphule isofa), ukubukela kuyakususwa ngalo mzuzu.
Ukuququmbela…
Ngokuqeqesha ufundisa abantwana bakho ukuba bakwazi ukuzibamba, ukuzeyisa nokuzanelisa, ke banokuzenzela izigqibo ezizizo ngoku nakwixesha elizayo. Oku kuthetha ukungabakhuseli ngokugqithisileyo okanye ukubenzela yonke into, kodwa sandise amathuba abo okufunda ngamava abo kunye nokujonga, nokuba oko kuthetha ukwenza iimpazamo (kuyinto eqhelekileyo!).
Ukuguga okuqinileyo nokungaguquguqukiyoyo kukuguga okusemgangathweni. Ufunda ukuthembela kwiimpendulo zakho, kwaye abantwana bakho bajikelezwe kukuqina kwakho kothando. Umvuzo wakho uba lusapho olonwabileyo, olulungeleleneyo.