Ukwahlukana neqabane lakho lixesha elinzima kakhulu kuye nabani na, kunye nenyaniso yokuqalisa ubudlelwane obutsha. Umntu ngamnye wahlukile kwaye ngamnye uya kufuna umlinganiselo othile wexesha xa kufikwa ekubeni neqabane elitsha. Ngale ndlela kukho abantu abangenangxaki yokuseka ubudlelwane obutsha kwiintsuku ezimbalwa emva kokuqhawula iqabane langaphambili. Abanye, kwelinye icala, bafuna ixesha elingakumbi ngaphambi kokuba baqalise ubuhlobo obutsha.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo sithetha ngothotho lwemiqondiso oko kunokubonisa ukuba umntu ukulungele ngokupheleleyo xa eqala ubuhlobo obutsha.
Iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuqala ubudlelwane obutsha
Kukho uluhlu lweempawu okanye iimpawu eziya kubonisa ukuba umntu ukwazile ukujika iphepha kwaye ukulungele ukuqala ubudlelwane obutsha:
Inqanaba lokugqibela le-duel lifikelelwe
Ukuqhawula ubudlelwane kuthetha ukuhamba ngoluhlu lwezigaba ezinxulumene nentlungu ngaphambi kokuqala entsha. Uthe intlungu ixhomekeke kumntu ekuthethwa ngaye kwaye inokuhlala kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ukuya kwiminyaka embalwa. Xa uphelisa ubudlelwane, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ube nothotho lweemvakalelo ezinjengosizi, ingqumbo okanye umsindo. Umntu ulungele ukuba nelinye iqabane xa iimvakalelo ezinjalo zisemva kwakhe kwaye akanalo umnqweno wokubuyela kubudlelwane obudala.
ukhulile kwaye wafunda
Kubalulekile ukucinga ngento engahambi kakuhle kubudlelwane obudlulileyo. Oku kubalulekile ukuze unqande ukuphinda iipateni kunye nokwenza iimpazamo kwakhona ngobudlelwane bexesha elizayo. Kufuneka ufunde kwinto eyenziwe ngokungalunganga ukuze ubudlelwane obulandelayo bube yeyona nto ingcono kakhulu. Ukuvuthwa ngundoqo wokuziva uqinisekile ukuba ubudlelwane obutsha bungaqala. Akufanele ungxame xa kufikwa ekudibaneni nomnye umntu ozakwenza naye ubudlelwane obutsha.
Ukwazile ukuphilisa onke amanxeba akho
Ukuphela kobudlelwane obuthile kunokuthetha ubukho boluhlu lwamanxeba kunye noloyiko olumele luphiliswe. Umntu usenokuba mathidala ukuba nobudlelwane, ngenxa yokoyika ukubandezeleka ngendlela efanayo neqabane lakhe langaphambili. Ke ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uqalise ubudlelwane obutsha, kubalulekile ukuphilisa onke amanxeba akho ngokupheleleyo kwaye ugxothe olo loyiko kubudlelwane bangaphambili.
Kufuneka ucace malunga nento oyifunayo.
Ngaphambi kokudibana nomntu kwaye uqale ubudlelwane obuthile, Kufuneka ucace malunga nento oyifunayo kunye nento oyifunayo. Kuhle ukuthatha ixesha lokucinga nokucinga, ukuze ungaphinde uwele kwimpazamo efanayo. Kwizihlandlo ezininzi, ukungxama akungomcebisi olungileyo kwaye kubangela ukuba umntu enze impazamo kwakhona xa eqala ubudlelwane obutsha. Kufuneka ucace malunga nezinto eziphambili zakho kwaye ukusuka apho ujonge loo mntu okuvumela ukuba useke ubudlelwane obunempilo kunye nolonwabo.
Ngamafutshane, kufuneka uthathe ixesha eliyimfuneko kwaye ungangxami ngaphambi kokuba uqale ubudlelwane obutsha. Akukho sizathu sokungxama njengoko kubalulekile ukuba ungaphinde uwele kuhlobo olufanayo lweempazamo. Ukucinga nokucinga kubalulekile xa kuziwa ekuzilungiseleleni kwakhona kunye nokukwazi ukudibana nomntu oza kuseka ubudlelwane obutsha naye. Ngaphandle kokucinga ngento eyenzekayo kwixesha elidlulileyo lokwahlukana, kubalulekile ukuba umntu acace malunga nento ayifunayo nayifunayo ngaphambi kokudibana nomntu.