Njengomzali, usenokuba ukhe wazibuza ukuba ungabanceda njani abantwana bakho bafunde ukwenza izigqibo ezizizo. Enye indlela yokulungiselela abantwana bakho impumelelo kukubeka imida eyomeleleyo ekhayeni lakho. Kubalulekile ukuqala ngokuyalela abantwana malunga nemida phakathi kwabo kunye nabanye kwasekuqaleni ebuntwaneni babo.
Umntwana okhulele kwikhaya apho imida esempilweni imiselwe kakuhle uya kufunda ukusebenzisa loo mida ebomini bakhe, ngaloo ndlela akhule ukuzeyisa nokuzithiba okungcono.ukukwazi ukwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo.
Kuthetha ntoni "ukunciphisa"?
Umda uthetha ukuba umntu unento yokwenza okanye angenzi kwaye uyazi ukuba imalunga nantoni. Imida ebekwa ngabantu inokuba yeyomda ngokomzimba okanye ngokweemvakalelo.
Imida yomda. Lo mda unokuba ngumzimba kwaye ubonakale, njengamalungu omzimba ngokwawo. Oku kubandakanya ukucacisela umntwana ukuba umzimba wakhe ngowakhe kuphela kwaye akukho namnye umntu omfundisayo ukuba azivelele. Ukucacisa, "Umzimba wakho ngowakho" yindawo elungileyo ukuqala.
Imida ngokweemvakalelo. Olunye uhlobo lomda luluvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni. Ukufundisa abantwana ukuba akulunganga ukuthetha izinto ezibuhlungu kwabanye ngumzekelo wokulinganiselwa ngokweemvakalelo. Ukuhlekisa kunokuba yenye indlela yokuwela imida yomntu ngokweemvakalelo.
Ngandlel 'ithile, imida yimithetho yokuhlala nabanye, Kukho imida ukuthintela ukuzenzakalisa okanye ukuzenzakalisa. Kwangokunjalo, kwimida kukho ixabiso elinokuthi abanye bangabinako ukuzenzakalisa.
Imida ekufuyeni
Xa ukhulisa abantwana ukuba babe nemida esempilweni, kubalulekile ukubavumela abantwana bakho ukuba babe kwaye babonakalise ezabo iimvakalelo. Le inokuba nzima kakhulu, njengoko kungeyonto ingaqhelekanga ukuba abanye abazali bazame ukukucinezela ukubonakaliswa kokuziphatha okuhle komntwana. Umzekelo, ukuba umntwana oneminyaka emi-4 uqala ukukhala kwaye abe nomsindo, ubunokwenza ntoni njengomzali? Isicwangciso esifanelekileyo sokuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho oneminyaka emi-4 ubudala uphuhlisa imida esempilweni kukumnceda ukuba abhale iimvakalelo zakhe kwaye athiye iimvakalelo zakhe. Ungathetha into efana nale: «Ndiyabona ukuba ukhathazekile kuba awunakuba nayo ilekese ngoku. Mhlawumbi ungazifumana iilekese emva kwesidlo sangokuhlwa. "
Umncedile ukuba abhale iimvakalelo zakhe. Ugqibe ekubeni ungamohlwayi okanye umnyanzele ukuba ayeke ukukhala kuba yimvakalelo ekufuneka iviwe, yamkelwe kwaye iqondwe ukuze ufumane utshintsho. Njengomzali, uvele wabonisa ukuba uyazamkela iimvakalelo zomntwana wakho. Ngalo lonke ixesha uziphatha ngale ndlela njengomzali, uqinisa ukuqonda kwendalo komntwana wakho kunye nemida.
Omnye umzekelo yinkwenkwe eneminyaka emibini okanye emithathu ubudala iphosa umntakwabo ngento yokudlala. Kwakhona, kuya kufuneka uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba kulungile ukuba kwaye ubonakalise iimvakalelo ezinomsindo, kodwa ukuba akulunganga ukuphosa into yokudlala kwabanye okanye ukubenzakalisa abanye. Ngexesha lesiqendu, musa ukubonisa iimvakalelo zomsindo. Xa ubeka imida, kuya kufuneka ube ngonozakuzaku. Kuya kufuneka uqine, kodwa ungaziva ukhathazekile okanye unomsindo. Thetha nje into efana nale: “Akulunganga ukuphosa into yokudlala kumntakwenu. Xa uphosa into yokudlala, kufuneka uhlale esihlalweni ubonakalise into oyenzileyo " kwaye ungathethi nto ngaphezulu de kudlule imizuzu embalwa. Vumela umntwana wakho ukuba ahlale esihlalweni ngenani lemizuzu ehambelana nobudala babo (ukuba baneminyaka emibini ubudala, hlala imizuzu emi-2; iminyaka emi-3, imizuzu emi-3).
Emva kwexesha liphelile, bulela umntwana wakho ngokuhlala esihlalweni kwaye ucamngce ngokwenzekileyo, ujonge isisombululo kwiimvakalelo ezinamandla. Ngale ndlela uya kufunda ukuba kumaxesha amaninzi, iimvakalelo kufuneka zive, kodwa nokubalawula ngenxa yesiqhelo.