Ukuya kuqhawulo-mtshato kunokuba lelinye lawona mava othusayo nabani na anokuba nawo. Ngokukodwa amadoda, akukho nkxaso incinci ifumanekayo kwaye uninzi lwamadoda luziva lungacacanga ukuba lufuna uncedo. Banokuziva bengenamntu babhenele kuye ukufumana isikhokelo okanye uncedo. Uninzi lwabazali abaqhawule umtshato banoluvo lokuba abanye bayazihlukanisa, ngamanye amaxesha abanye banokucinga ukuba xa umama eshiya utata, "iya kuba yinto ethile." Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo, zizigwebo ezingenabungqina ezinokuba buhlungu kakhulu.
Ixesha elililolo
Kuqhawulo-mtshato xa umama eshiya usapho kwaye ngutata ofumana ilungelo lokugcina abantwana, inokubaphazamisa abaninzi. Kunokuqala ukubakho imibuzo engathandekiyo, kungenjalo, oomama ababuzwa kuba kufanelekile ukuba bayenze kanjani "kakuhle". Ngexesha elizayo xa udibana nendoda eza kuqhawula umtshato, unokucinga ukuba uziva ulilolo, ulilolo, kwaye akanathemba, nokuba ujongeka emhle kwaye uyaphika.
Utata okhathalele abantwana bakhe kuyakufuneka ajongane neengxaki zeemvakalelo, zezemali nezomzimba ngendlela efanayo ngokungathi ibingumama oshiyeke yedwa ephethe abantwana bakhe kuba utata ebashiya.
Ukulahlwa kwamadoda kukwakho
Indoda eshiywe ngumfazi inokuziva ikheswa, ihlazekile, iingxaki zemali, njl. Baziva bengamalolo, bengenamntu kwaye abathembi mntu. Bayazi ukuba kufuneka balwele abantwana babo kodwa banokuzibuza imibuzo ebuhlungu: Ngaba ndiyindoda embi kangaka? Ndizokwazi ukuthanda omnye umntu? Ngaba ukhona umntu ofuna ukuba ndibenabantwana kwaye ndihlale ndedwa?
Ngokwenene amadoda aqhawule umtshato anokuncedana njengamaqela enkxaso. Banokuba luncedo njengabazali, ukwazi amabali abanye abantu kunye nokuzama ukubanceda kunokuphucula indlela oziva ngayo ngawe.
Amadoda nawo kufuneka avakalise ukukhululeka malunga nento eyenzekileyo kubo, kufuneka babe nomntu abanokuthetha naye kwaye bamthembe. Ukwazi ukuba kukho amadoda amaninzi athe atyhubela kwinto enye kwaye kukho iingxaki zeemvakalelo nezomthetho kunye nezithintelo ebomini. Amadoda aqhawule umtshato nawo afuna ukuqonda kunye nenkxaso.
Ke ngoko, ukuba uyazi indoda eshiywe ngumfazi okanye eza kuqhawula umtshato, sukucinga ukuba iziva ilungile okanye iphila nolunye ulutsha. Kuba akunjalo. Unokuziva ulilolo kwaye uphelelwe lithemba. Kuyenzeka ukuba akukhanyele ... kodwa zama ukucinga ukuba ungathini okanye ungathini kumfazi ohamba kwinto efanayo naleya ndoda, kuba naye ufuna uhlobo olufanayo loncedo, uthando , ingqalelo kunye nokuvuma.
Kunzima kakhulu ukufumana uqhawulo-mtshato, ukwahlukana, okanye ukulahlwa. Ukujongana neemvakalelo ezibuhlungu nokukhulisa abantwana ngengqibelelo yokubasa phambili kwaye neemvakalelo zabo nazo zilungelelene, akukho lula. Ke ngoko, ukuba uyazi imeko yomntu okule meko, unganqikazi ukumnika isandla xa efuna, Baza kukubulela ngobomi bakho!
Mholo. Kuvuyisa kangakanani ukufunda eli nqaku. Ndingathanda ukwabelana ngeencwadi ngayo. Ndisebenza nethisisi yam yokuba umba ubaluleke kangako kukuba naye umnike inkxaso yeemvakalelo kwaye eqinisekisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Ndizigqibile izifundo zenkosi yam kwi-Thanatology. Ukubulisa