Awunako ukumanga nokuthambisa xa unengxaki yobudlelwane. Awunakho ukubeka ibhendi kuyo kwaye uthembise ukuba ngekhe uphinde uyenze kwakhona. Kwaye awunakulinda ukuya phambili kwaye wenze ngathi akukho nto yenzekileyo. Kulungile, ngokobuchwephesha ungayenza loo nto ... kodwa uya kuphela kwindawo enye okhoyo ngoku. Kwaye mhlawumbi (hayi, ngokuqinisekileyo) ayisiyiyo le uyifunayo.
Ukuba unokutyhila oyena nobangela wengxaki yakho yobudlelwane, uya kuba nakho ukuyisombulula. Ukuba le yinto ekufuneka niyisebenzele neqabane lakho, kuyakufuneka nizimisele ukuba ngcono ukususela ngoku ukuya phambili kwaye nizame nangakumbi… Ukwenza oku, kuya kufuneka nilandele ezi ngcebiso zilandelayo.
Vala iqonga
Unokufuna ukuya phambili ngokukhawuleza okukhulu, kodwa ngaphandle kwayo, ufuna izinto zisebenze kwaye ngenxa yoko ufuna ukuvalwa kancinci. Oko kunokuthetha ukuthetha ngengxaki yakho de nobabini nikhululeke ngokupheleleyo ngokuqhubeka nobomi.
Kungathetha ukujonga kufutshane kunye nokubonisa omnye komnye ukuba ulwela ukusombulula ingxaki., nokuba konke oku kubonakala kugqithisile. Ukuba ingxaki inzulu ngokwenene kwaye yoyikeka, usenokufuna ukuya ekhefini elwandle kunye ukuze nizonwabise kunye buyela kwisigaba esitsha sobomi bakho kunye nolwalamano.
Ukuzinikela
Nobabini mhlawumbi niziva ninganqabisekanga okwangoku. Ewe, nobabini nivumile ukuhlala kunye kwaye niyazi ukuba ubudlelwane benu bomelele ngenxa yako konke ukubandezeleka enidlule kuko. Kodwa ngaba uziva uqinisekile ukuba ungayikhupha?
Ukusombulula imiba yobudlelwane ngaphandle kokuqhekeka, kuya kufuneka uphinde ubandakanyeke. Ukuba oku kuthetha ukuba ubusuku bokuthandana (kwaye kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokudibana kwakhona kwesiqhelo) okanye isithembiso sokuba uzibophelele ekwenzeni oku, kuya kufuneka uphinde uzinikele omnye komnye ngendlela oziva ulungile kuwe. Oku kuya kukwenza uzive usondele kakhulu omnye komnye. kwaye ngethemba lokuba uzolile naziphi na iinkxalabo osenazo.
Inqaku lelokuba okukhona usenza izinto njengabantu abathandanayo, kokukhona kuya kuba yinyani. Kufuneka nje ukhumbule into eniyithandayo omnye nomnye kunye nendlela olunge ngayo kunye. Ayizukuba lula okanye ikhawuleze, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iya kufaneleka.
Uvelwano
Xa udibana nomntu okokuqala, unemfesane kakhulu kubo kuba yindlela abakukhulise ngayo. Uyazi ukuba wonke umntu ulwa idabi elinzima, njengoko besoloko besitsho, kwaye akufuneki ugwebe ngaphambi kokuba wazi ibali elipheleleyo. Ngelishwa, okukhona uthandana nomnye umntu, kokukhona uyithatha kancinci. Uyilibale indlela abakhetheke ngayo Awuzibhiyozeli izinto ezincinci ezenza ubudlelwane bakho bukhulu kwaye ubacaphukele.
Xa usenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuze uthando luphumelele kwaye lusombulule iingxaki zakho zobudlelwane, kuya kufuneka ube nemfesane ngakumbi kwiqabane lakho. Yinike ixesha kunye nendawo yokuphefumla kwaye uyeke ukucaphukisa kunye nezikhalazo. Ngubani okhathalayo ukuba kuhamba kancinci xa kulayishwa i-dishwasher? Okanye ukuba abanazigqibo malunga nokubukela kwiNetflix emva kosuku olude emsebenzini? Ezi zinto azinamsebenzi kunyaka okanye kwinyanga ... Musa ukunika ukubaluleka kwento engenayo.
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