Abantu abathwaxwa kukubeleka sele befile lelona xesha linzima ekufuneka baphile kulo. Baziva bengamakheswa ngokweemvakalelo nasemzimbeni. Xa ukufa komntwana kwenzeka, kaninzi akukho ngcaciso, iyenzeka nje. Abazali baphulukene nosana lwabo, abaye baluva ngokukhaba nangentshukumo yabo kodwa abangazange bakwazi ukulonwabela ezingalweni zabo. Basenokuziva belahlekile yaye bedidekile yaye kwanomtshato usenokuba nenzondo.
Intlungu eviwayo inkulu kwaye akukho ntuthuzelo nkqu nakwizimvo ezinobubele zabona bantu basondeleyo. Xa kuthe cwaka emangcwabeni akukho nto ithuthuzelayo, iimvakalelo zingumsindo nokuphelelwa lithemba. Kamva, xa intlungu iphelile, ukucinga ngokukhulelwa kwexesha elizayo kunokuvusa uloyiko oluninzi. Kungenzeka ukuba ekuhambeni kwexesha isibini sibonakala sivuya ngaphandle, kodwa ukusuka ngaphakathi kwintlungu yokulahlekelwa kunokuba namandla kakhulu, ngakumbi, ukuba inkqubo yesijwili ayidluliswanga ngokuchanekileyo.
Ukuxhasana
Kuyimfuneko ukuba isibini sixhasane kwinqanaba leemvakalelo, kuba abantu ababangqongileyo, nokuba baneenjongo ezintle, abayi kuyazi indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngokwenene. Isibini sisenokungathandi ukuya ekhefini okanye ukubona abanye abantu, kodwa kufuneka siqhubele phambili. Ukuba iba nzima kakhulu, ukukhangela amaqela enkxaso kunokuba sisicwangciso esihle. Abanye abantu abaye batyhubela kwinto efanayo banokunikela imbono eyahlukileyo ngobomi.
Ngaphandle kwale nkxaso, uqhawulo-mtshato luya kusondela ... kodwa enyanisweni, sisibini esiye sadlula kwinto enye eyona nkxaso ilungileyo. Akukho bubi, kukho iintliziyo ezimbini ezaphukileyo, ezigxininiswe kwiintlungu ezifuna ukuphilisa ukuze zikwazi ukuqhubela phambili. Ngaphandle kokucima inkumbulo yomntwana, lixesha lokumthwala entliziyweni yakho. Lixesha lokomeleza umtshato.
Fumana unyango
Njengesibini esifelwe lusana, kuhle ukufuna unyango lwentlungu. Yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokulwa nolo nxunguphalo ngaphandle kokuba luthathe umntu ohluphekayo. Xa iimvakalelo zibuyela kwisiqhelo kwaye ucinga ukuba ukukhangela ukukhulelwa okutsha yinto efanelekileyo, ungacingi ukuba kuya kwenzeka into efanayo.
Xa ubeleka umntwana wakho wesibini, Uya kwazi ukuba yonke into ifanelekile kwaye usana lwakho olungasekhoyo ngokungathandabuzekiyo lusana lwakho, nokuba ukukhumbula oko kuyaqhubeka kukukhathaza. Kodwa uya kuhlala engumntwana wakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuba kwenzekani. Nokuba wonwabile kunye nosapho olwenzileyo, kuya kuhlala kukho umzuzu wokuphoxeka kwinkumbulo yomntwana wakho ohambe ngokukhawuleza.
Musa ukucinga ukuba awukwazi ukuqhubela phambili ebomini, kuba ngokuthanda kunye noncedo oluyimfuneko unako, kwaye unokufezekisa kunye neqabane lakho ecaleni lakho. Kuba nobabini nidlule kwezona zihlandlo zinzima ezinokudlula kuso nasiphi na isibini nabazali. Akukho mntu ulungele ukunyamezela isibetho esinzima njengokulahlekelwa ngumntwana, kungakhathaliseki ubudala, nokuba sele efile kwaye awunalo ixesha lokunandipha ebomini. Umntwana ngumntwana kwasekukhawulweni kwakhe. Kuya kufuneka uzivumele ukuba ube buhlungu kwaye ucinge ngomntwana wakho njengoyena mntu wayeyiyo kwaye eya kuhlala isezintliziyweni zakho. Akukho ncwadana yayo, kwaye akukho mhla uchanekileyo wokwazi ukuba uyakulunga nini...