Unxibelelwano nabantwana lungundoqo xa kuziwa unokuhlakulela ukuzithemba kwaye bayakwazi ukufunda izakhono zentlalo. Kubalulekile ke ngoko ukuba kusetyenziswe ulwimi olwakhayo kunye nolunentlonipho kwaye ngolu hlobo lomeleza amaqhina. Ngaphandle koku, abazali abaninzi benza impazamo enkulu yokusebenzisa igunya kunye nezithintelo xa befundisa abantwana babo.
Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kunika iinkcukacha ngothotho lwamabinzana akhayo nafundisayo onokuthi uwathethe emntwaneni wakho xa engahoyanga.
Faka ibinzana elakhayo endaweni ethi hayi
Ukusebenzisa ibinzana elithi "thetha ngokuthambileyo" endaweni yelithi "musa ukukhwaza"
Odumileyo akufanele asetyenziswe kuphela kwiimeko ezinqabileyo. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukutshintsha uhayi wamabinzana akhuthazayo nakhayo anceda ukufundisa ngendlela efanelekileyo.
"Gqiba phantsi" endaweni yokuthi "ungatsibi ebhedini"
Kufuneka silibale ngesithintelo kwaye ukhethe ibinzana apho umntwana anikwe enye indlela ukuze aqhubeke nokulonwabela.
"Linda ithuba lakho lokuthetha" endaweni yokuthi "musa ukuphazamisa"
Akukho sizathu sokumthethisa umntwana ukuba usoloko ephazamisa iincoko zabantu abadala. Eyona nto icetyiswayo kukusebenzisa amabinzana awakhayo ezenza umntwana abone ukuba kubalulekile ukuhlonela ithuba lokuthetha.
Bonisa ukuzithemba ngamazwi
“Ndinethemba lokuba wena nomntakwenu niya kuyicombulula ngembeko le ngxaki” kunokuthi “musani ukuxambulisana nomzalwana wakho.”
Ngeli binzana uya kubonisa ukuba uyamthemba ngokupheleleyo umntwana wakho xa kuziwa kwisisombululo songquzulwano kunye ekunceda ukomeleza ukuzithemba kwakho.
"Uyayazi indlela yokuthetha ngentlonipho" endaweni yokuthi "ayisiyonto engenamsebenzi"
Ngeli binzana ukuziphatha kakuhle komntwana kuya kuqiniswa kwaye ukuqonda iinzame zabo. Ukwala akunikezi zikhokelo ekufuneka umntwana enze ngokufanelekileyo.
Tshintsha iiodolo ngeenketho
"Khetha phakathi kweyogathi okanye iziqhamo ze dessert" endaweni "yokutya isiqhamo"
Ngokumalunga nemfundo yabantwana, Kubalulekile ukubanika iinketho ukukhuthaza ukwenziwa kwezigqibo nokomeleza ukuzithemba nokuzithemba. Ukhetho lunceda umntwana azive exatyiswe ngabazali bakhe.
"Yilumkele loo nto inokophuka" endaweni yokuthi "ungayichukumisi loo nto"
Kubalulekile ukuba umntwana abe nolwazi oluninzi xa esenza isenzo esithile. Ukuvalwa kufuneka kutshintshwe ngolunye olufanelekileyo.
"Ungabulisa njani umakhulu" endaweni yokuthi "uncamise umakhulu"
Akufanele umnyanzele umntwana ukuba enze into angayifuniyo okanye angayifuniyo. Kufuneka sifundise ngothando kwaye uhloniphe iminqweno yabo. Oku kuya kukhuthaza amandla omntwana okwenza uluvo.
Imvumelwano kunye nentsebenziswano
"Ngaba ufuna uncedo ngezinto zokudlala?" Endaweni yokuba "chola amathoyizi"
Xa kuziwa ekufumaneni umntwana ukuba ahlambulule igumbi lakhe kunye namathoyizi, kufuneka ulibale malunga nokucoca kunye nxibelelana ngendlela eyakhayo. Kuhle ukubonisa ukukulungela okuthile ukunceda nokukhokela umntwana ngendlela enentlonelo.
“Ukuba kukho into ekucaphukisayo, ndilapha ukuze ndikuncede” endaweni yokuthi “Yeka ukukhalaza ngayo yonke into!”
Akufanele umkhalimele umntwana xa enomsindo okanye elila. Eyona nto icetyiswayo kukujongana nomntwana ngendlela eyakhayo kwaye ubonise ukuba ukhona kuyo nantoni na efunekayo. Kubalulekile ukuba wazi ngamaxesha onke ukuba unokuthembela kubazali bakho xa kuyimfuneko naxa kufanelekile.
Ngamafutshane, xa abantwana bengayihoyi okanye bengayihloneli imithetho, kubalulekile ukukhetha ngamabinzana akhuthazayo ngaxeshanye nolwakhayo nokuzuza imfundo egqwesileyo neyaneleyo.