Ayinguye wonke umntu okwaziyo ukufumana isiqingatha sabo esingcono kunye neqabane elizinzileyo elinika ubomi babo intsingiselo. Uthando olungafunekiyo kukukhanya kwemini, into enokubangela ukungonwabi okukhulu kubantu abaninzi.
Ngenxa yoko, abantu abathile bahlala bezibuza ukuba lilishwa elinjani xa kufikwa ekuthandeni kwaye kutheni bengakwazi ukufumana uthando. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuchaza ezinye zezinto ezibangela oku nento ekufuneka siyenze ukuyilungisa.
Ngelishwa eluthandweni
Xa uthetha ngamashwa amabi kuthando, kuya kufuneka wahlule phakathi kweengxaki ezinokuvela xa ufumana iqabane elizinzileyo kunye nenyani yokuba neengxaki xa ugcina iqabane. Zininzi izinto ezinokuthi zidlale xa kufikwa kule ntlekele imbi kuthando kwaye oko kufuneka kubhekiswe ngendlela eneenkcukacha.
Iingxaki xa ufuna iqabane
- Akukho sidingo sokuzibamba nangaliphi na ixesha xa kufikwa ekufumaneni iqabane. Yinto ekufuneka ivele ngendlela yendalo kwaye ingazibekeli loo njongo ebomini. Owona mnqweno wokudibana nomntu oza kwabelana naye ngobomi wenza ukuba abantu abaninzi babe nobunzima kunye neengxaki xa kuziwa ekudibaneni nomntu onokuqala naye ubudlelwane.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, izinto ezilindelweyo zigqwethekile xa kufikwa kuthando. Kuyacetyiswa ukuba uphume udibane nabantu ukuze babe nakho ukubalisa. Ngale ndlela yendalo kunokwenzeka ukuba unxibelelane nomntu oza kuthi kamva abe sisibini.
- Ukunqongophala konxibelelwano kunye nokurhoxa kwizakhono zentlalo kunokubangela abanye abantu ukuba babe neengxaki zokufumana iqabane. Oku kungakhokelela ekubeni umntu azivalele yena kwaye angavuleli abanye ukuze bamazi. Kunzima ukudibana nomntu ukuba umntu onethamsanqa eluthandweni uzithatha njengexhoba kwaye afakwe kwithemba eligqibeleleyo.
Ukuphuza iminwe
Iingxaki zokugcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo nobude
Kukho ezinye iintlobo zabantu abanethamsanqa elibi kuthando ikakhulu ngenxa yokuba bengakwazi ukugcina ubudlelwane obuzinzileyo kunye nokugcina ngokuhamba kwexesha. Oku kunokubangelwa liqela leengxaki:
- Akukho lula konke konke ukugcina iqabane lakho ixesha lihamba, ukuba akukho thuba lokukhululwa kunye nokukwazi ukuhlala kunye kwindlu enye nophahla olunye. Ingxaki eza kuthi ngokuthe ngcembe idilize ulwalamano
- Iingxaki zonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu bobabini zezinye zezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuqhawula isibini. Ukuba isibini asikwazi ukunxibelelana, kugwetyelwe ukusilela.
- Ukungabikho kokuzibophelela kubudlelwane inokuba sesinye isizathu sokuba isibini singapheli ixesha. Kufuneka kubekho ukubandakanyeka kwabantu bobabini kwaye ukholelwe kwiqabane lomnye 100%. Isibini sibandakanya ukuzinikela kunye nomzamo kumacala omabini.