Ngaphambi kokuba ube ngumama, ubomi abunanto yakwenza xa umama enkqonkqoza emnyango. Enyanisweni, xa umfazi eba ngumama, uyazi ukuba ubomi bakhe buza kutshintsha ngokupheleleyo, nangona kunjalo, umama omtsha uhlala engumfazi ofanayo njengamaxesha onke. Ngulo mfazi mnye, kuphela izinto eziphambili ezitshintshileyo.
Ubuhlobo buyatshintsha
Mhlawumbi nobuhlobo buya kutshintsha kuba awusayi kuba nalo ixesha elifanayo lokwenza izinto obuzenza ngaphambi kokuba umntu omncinane alawule ubomi bakho. Awusayi kuphinda uphume uye kwiindawo ezifanayo, kuba uya kuhlala ucinga ngabantwana bakho kunye nempilo yabo ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngalo naliphi na isicwangciso. Ukuba unabahlobo abangoomama, kuphela abo banyanisekileyo baya kuhlala ecaleni kwakho.
Ayinakuphepheka into yokuba obunye bobuhlobo buya kude buphele kubomi bakho, kuba ngoku ixesha lakho lijoliswe ebantwaneni bakho. Nangona abahlobo bokwenyaniso beya kwazi ukuba xa ixesha lihamba, uya kubuyela ekubeni ungumntu okwamaxesha onke, kuphela nje ukuba xa elo xesha lidlula, kuphela izihlobo ezikuthanda ngokwenene eziya kuhlala zisecaleni kwakho; nobabini nomntwana wakho.
Ixesha ligolide
Sukuba nexhala ukuba oku kuyenzeka, enyanisweni, oku kuya kukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba ngoobani abantu abafanele ukuba ebomini bakho nobo babantwana bakho. Uya kufunda ukubeka phambili abantu kwaye kananjalo sUya kuqonda ukuba ixesha lakho yimali kwaye ayinguye wonke umntu ofanelwe njengesipho.
Uya kubaxabisa kakhulu abo bantu bakunika ixesha labo (obo buncwane buxabisekileyo obungenakubuya) kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba ixesha lakho lixabiseke kangangokuba ayinguye wonke umntu olifaneleyo. Nje ukuba uqonde oku, unako ukonwabele ukuhlala nabahlobo bakho ngakumbi kwaye, nokuba ngumama.
Yonwabela abantwana bakho, wena kunye nabahlobo bakho
Abantwana bakho bayakudinga ngaphezu kwayo yonke into kweli hlabathi kwaye yiyo loo nto beya kuba yeyona nto iphambili kuwe ngalo lonke ixesha. Nabani na ongabamkeli abantwana bakho ngexesha lakho lokuphumla akafanelanga ixesha lakho okanye ingqalelo. Kwelinye icala, abo bakuhlonelayo ukuba ungumama, ukuba unokuhlangana nabahlobo bakho ukuze bafumane ikofu ngamaxesha athile kwindawo apho abantwana bakho banokubaleka baze bonwabe., obo buhlobo buya kuba bufanele ukuba bugcinwe ebomini bakho.
Nangona ufumanisa ukuba ubuhlobo bakho buye batshintsha kakhulu oko waba ngumama, ungakhathazeki. Aba bantu bakwenzela i favour, suziva buhlungu xa beshiya ubomi bakho, yiva unombulelo kuba bakufundise into abayiyo ngokwenene. Gxininisa ekufumaneni abantu abakuxabisa ngokwenene nabakwaziyo ukunandipha ixesha kunye nawe nabantwana bakho.
Apho ungalindelanga khona ungafumana abo mama nabo bafuna ukuba ngabahlobo bakho. Banokufunyanwa phakathi koomama babantwana ofunda nabo esikolweni, kwiqela lenkxaso oye wabafumana kwiiwebhsayithi zokuncokola, okanye kummelwane ongummelwane. owawungazange unikele ingqalelo kuyo ngaphambili.