Uthando olusempilweni nolubuyiswayo yenye yezinto ezimangalisayo ezinokwenzeka emntwini. Oku kwenzeka xa kukho ukukhula ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwabantu bobabini. Ukuba, kwelinye icala, kukho ukunqongophala kokuvuthwa ngokweemvakalelo, kuhlala kukho umngcipheko wokuba uthando luya kujika luxhomekeke kwiimvakalelo. Kuya kufuneka ulumke ngakumbi koku, kuba kukho umgca olungileyo phakathi kothando lokwenene kunye nokuxhomekeka.
Oku kuxhomekeka kubangela ukuba ubudlelwane bube yityhefu kwaye bugulise ngezinto ezinzulu zonyamalale, ngakumbi ngenxa yokukhohlisa okwenziwe lelinye lamaqela. Kwinqaku elilandelayo siza kuthetha ngezinto ezintathu ezahlukileyo nezicacileyo ezikhoyo phakathi kothando nokuxhomekeka kwiimvakalelo kunye Kutheni ubudlelwane obuxhomekeke kuye bungafanele kuvunywa naphantsi kwazo naziphi na iimeko.
Umahluko phakathi kothando kunye nokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo
- Xa kukho uthando lwenene, kukho ukunikezela ngokupheleleyo kwinxalenye yabo bobabini abantu. Ukonwaba komnye lulonwabo lwabo bobabini. Inikwe kodwa ngaphandle kokulinda ukufumana nantoni na, kuba uthando luyinto eyanelisayo kubo bobabini. Kwimeko yokuxhomekeka, ukuzingca kuveliswa lelinye lamaqela ukuze omnye umntu amthande nanini na xa umxhaphazi efuna njalo. Kwimeko enjalo akukho luthando, kodwa kukuziphatha okukhohlisayo. Ngelishwa, ayisiyonto yodwa le kwaye izibini ezininzi ziyifumana mihla le.
- Umahluko wesibini ulele kwinto yokuba kuthando, bobabini abantu bakhululekile ukuba bakhule ngenxa yokuthembana okukhoyo phakathi kwaba babini. Ngokuchasene noko, kubudlelwane obuxhomekeke, elinye lamaqela alikhululekanga ukwenza izinto ezahlukeneyo kwaye libotshelelwe izandla neenyawo. Kubudlelwane bokuxhomekeka ngokweemvakalelo, icandelo lokuzithoba alikwazi ukukhula, kuba ulawulo olukhulu kakhulu lwenziwa emntwini.
- Umahluko wesithathu ubangelwa yinto yokuba uthando lokwenyani luyakwazi ukuhlala ixesha elininzi nangona kukho iingxaki ezithile. Ngokwahlukileyo, ubudlelwane obuxhomekekileyo abunakamva kwaye buhlala buye buphele ngokuhamba kwexesha. Ubutyhefu bukho kwindalo esingqongileyo kwaye oku kwenza ukuhlala kunye njengesibini kungazinzi. Iingxaki kunye neengxabano zikhona kuthando lwenene, kodwa abantu bakhule ngokwaneleyo ukuba bafumane izisombululo ezinokubakho kwesi sibini.
Ngamafutshane, ubudlelwane bokuxhomekeka asilothando kwaye abuvelisi naluphi na ulonwabo phakathi kwabantu. Umntu oxhaphazayo uya kuthabatha ngakumbi nangakumbi kwinxalenye yesifundo, kukhokelela kwimeko yokuntywila ebalulekileyo. Kolu hlobo lobudlelwane, kukho umonakalo ogqithileyo kwicandelo leemvakalelo lomntu oxhatshaziweyo ngako konke okubi oku kubandakanya. Awunakho ukuvumela oku ukuba kwenzeke kwaye ungaluhoyi naluphi na uhlobo lwetyhefu. Uthando lokwenyani kufuneka lugcinwe kubudlelwane obusempilweni ngelixa lukhula kwaye omabini amaqela alwela impilo-ntle efanayo.