Abantwana basenokubonakala bexhalabile kodwa abazali basenokungayiqondi into yokuba banexhala yaye kunzima ngokwenene. Ukubukela iimpawu ezilumkisayo zokuxhalaba ebantwaneni kunokuba luqilima, njengoko abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emihlanu banokubonisa kuphela ezinye zeempawu zePTSD ezifunyanwa ngabantu abadala.
Ngesi sizathu, kunzima ukwazi ukuba umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 ubudala unoxinzelelo okanye iingxaki zoxinzelelo ezichaphazela kakhulu ukukhula kwakhe. Kukho iintsapho ezifumana iingozi zemoto, ukufelwa lilungu lentsapho okanye ukuqweqwediswa.
Iziphumo zasemva komothuko onjalo zinokubonwa ngokulula ngakumbi kubantu abadala, kodwa ukubona iimpawu zokuxhalaba ebantwaneni kunokuba nzima, ngakumbi kubantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emi-5 ubudala. Aba bantwana badla ngokuba nengxaki yokunxibelelana kuba uninzi lwabo lungakakwazi ukulawula ukusetyenziswa kolwimi kakuhle.
Iimpawu ezibonisa ukuba umntwana wakho unoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo
Ukuba ukrokrela ukuba umntwana wakho unengxaki yoxinzelelo lwasemva koxinzelelo, kuya kufuneka unikele ingqalelo kwezi mpawu zilandelayo ezinokuthi zikwenze kucace kuwe ukuba ufuna uncedo oluvela kwingcali:
- Uloyiko olungenangqiqo lwabantu ongabaziyo okanye ukwahlukana nabazali
- Iingxaki zokulala okanye amaphupha amabi
- Utsho amagama okanye umele iisimboli ezinokuthi zinxibelelene nomothuko
- Udlala imixholo enxulumene nokwenzakala okunokwenzeka
- Ukuhlehla kwizakhono zophuhliso
- Ukucaphuka okanye ukuziphatha ndlongo
- Uphelelwa ngumdla esikolweni, kubahlobo, okanye kwimisebenzi obuyithanda ngaphambili
Unokumnceda njani?
Ukuba umntwana wakho ungaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu ubudala, uya kufuna iindlela zesiqhelo, ulwakhiwo, uqikelelo kunye nothando oluninzi oluvela kubanonopheli kunye nabantu abasondeleyo. Oku kuya kubanceda bamelane bhetele. Ngaloo ndlela, Kulumkele ukwahlukana ngokungeyomfuneko kwaye umanga kakhulu umntwana wakho. Unokwenza imisebenzi yokuphumla efana nokupeyinta, ukwenza intlama yokudlala, ukucula, njl.
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, umntwana wakho uneminyaka emi-3 ukuya kwe-5 ubudala, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuba umamele umntwana wakho kwaye akuxelele ngezinto ezibaxhalabisayo. Nceda umntwana wakho abone iimvakalelo ngamagama, ukuze akwazi ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakhe. Ngale ndlela uya kukwazi ukuyithetha into eyenzekayo kuwe endaweni yokuyivakalisa ngokuziphatha kakubi.
Kunokuba umxelele ukuba makayeke ukulila aze alale, kubhetele uthethe amazwi anjengala, ‘Uboyika ngokwenene ubumnyama, ungakhathazeki kuba ndisecaleni kwakho. Kubalulekile ukulandela imigaqo kwaye ubeke imida ngokuqhubekayo nangobulali, oku kuya kunika umntwana wakho ukuziva ekhuselekile.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba iimpawu zakho zokuxhalaba aziphucuki kwaye ziya ziba mandundu, emva koko kuya kufuneka uye kwingcali ukuze ndikuncede uhlangabezane nale meko kwaye umntwana wakho akwazi ukubuyisela ukuzinza kwakhe ngokweemvakalelo.