Ukwahlukana kunzima kubazali njengokuba kunjalo kubantwana abancinci. Kwabancinci kuyinto eqhelekileyo, efanelekileyo kunye nenkqubo eqhelekileyo yophuhliso. Umntwana oziva ekhuselekile ufunda ukubathemba abanye abantu kwaye uyaqonda ukuba xa abazali bakhe bemkile, baya kubuya.
Nangona kunjalo, xa umntwana eziva uxinzelelo uya kuba nexhala ngala maxesha. Ziimeko ezicinezelayo ezinokwenza onke amalungu entsapho abe nexesha elibi kakhulu.
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Kumalunga neenyanga ezisibhozo xa umntwana engafuni ukohlukana nabazali bakhe. Ixhala lokwahlukana lisenokuqalisa. Usana luyazi ngakumbi indawo elungqongileyo kwaye nangona iindawo eziqhelekileyo zithuthuzela, abantu abatsha okanye iindawo ezingaqhelekanga baziva besongelwa ngokwenene.
Bayaqonda ukuba bangabantu abahlukileyo kumama notata kwaye kweli nqanaba lokuqonda, iintsana ziyaqonda xa abazali bazo behamba kodwa abazi ukuba baya kubuya nini kwaye oku kubangela ukuxhalaba. Eli nqanaba lokuxhalaba lokuhlukana linokuhlala iinyanga ezimbalwa, kodwa liqhelekile kwaye lilungile ngokwenene. Kwinkqubo yokwahlukana, baziva bengakhululekanga kodwa bafunda indlela yokujongana nayo. Bakhulisa ukuzithemba nokuxhathisa.
Indlela yokujongana ngcono nemeko
Ngaphambi kweenyanga ezintandathu kuya kuba licebo elihle ukuqhelanisa usana nabanye abanonopheli abathembekileyo. La mava amnandi aya kunceda ukunciphisa ixhala lokuhlukana. Kuyimfuneko ukudala indawo enothando nekhuselekileyo.
Kamva, kubantwana abancinane, ixhala lokwahlukana lisenokuvela kwakhona, kwanokuba bayaqonda ukuba abazali babo baya kubuya. Bayaqonda ukuba ukugqajukelwa ngumsindo kunokwenza uyise ahlale. Yenye inxalenye eqhelekileyo yophuhliso. Abazali babantwana abancinci kufuneka bazi ukuba ukuhambelana kwamazwi kunye nezenzo zabo kubalulekile kweli nqanaba.
Kuyimfuneko ukuba unganciphisi iimvakalelo zomntwana kwaye ube nesithethe sokuvalelisa rhoqo xa uhamba, nokuba utshintsho lukhawuleza (ukubonisa isimo sengqondo esonwabileyo kunye nokuthembela ukuphepha ukuxhalaba).
Iminyaka yokuqala yesikolo
Nokuba ufuna ukuzimela, uya kuba nobunzima xa ehlukana nawe. Amaxesha amaninzi oku kunxulumene noxinzelelo olutsha kubomi bomntwana wakho okanye utshintsho oluthile lwesiqhelo: kufika umzalwana omncinane kwaye unexhala ngendawo yakhe entliziyweni yakho, okanye uqala isikolo kwaye ngequbuliso ushiywe nabantwana abaninzi. Iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba iinkxalabo zokwahlukana zihlala zidlula ngokukhawuleza kule minyaka, njengoko umntwana wakho eqhelana neemeko ezintsha.
Ukuze woyise le meko kufuneka uxelele umntwana wakho ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe ziqhelekile yaye yonke into iya kuba lula kungekudala. Mxelele ukuba uza kubuya nini kwaye kufuneka ubekhona kanye ngelo xesha. Iindlela zesiqhelo nazo ziya kuba ngamahlakani alungileyo. Ukuba nenkqubo eqikelelwayo kunye nezakhiwo ebomini bakho kuya kukunceda uzive ukhuselekile kwaye uthumele umyalezo wokuba yonke into iqhelekile kwaye ilungile. Indlala nokudinwa kunokubangela iingxaki zokwahlukana.