Emva kokwahlukana, kuqhelekile ukuba ungathethi ne-ex yakho okwethutyana, ngakumbi ukuba uphele kumagama amabi. Kwaye naxa uqala ukuthetha kwakhona, uya kwenza njalo ngokuthumela imiyalezo ebhaliweyo. Imithambo-luvo iqhelekile kwaye awusoloko uyazi ukuba ungathini. Ukuba ufuna i-ex yakho ikunike ingqalelo kwakhona, ke ungaphoswa zezi ngcebiso.
Khangela ithuba elihle
Ukuba usacinga malunga nokuba uza kuqala nini okanye kanjani ukuthetha naye, jonga izinto ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba ubhale umyalezo wakho wokuqala wombhalo. Ubaluleke njani kwaye nini ubudlelwane bakho? Ukuba iphelile ngokwemigaqo elungileyo kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba uya kuhlala ungumhlobo, indlela elula yokuhamba ngayo inokusebenza.
Ngamanye amaxesha, unokufuna ukulinda de kube lixesha elikhethekileyo kwaye uqale ngomnqweno olula, enokuthi ibe sisiqalo esifanelekileyo sencoko njengoko iveza izihloko ezifanelekileyo onokumbuza ngazo.
Uziphathe kakuhle kodwa ungamoyikisi
Nje ukuba uqale ukuthetha, konke malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana nokuzazisa. Kuba uthetha kwi-Intanethi, awunakuwabona amabinzana abo, enza izinto zigqwetheke ngakumbi, kodwa ukuhlala ulungile linyathelo lokuqala elifanelekileyo. Gcina incoko iqhubeka, intle, kwaye imnandi, ngakumbi kwiitekisi zokuqala ezimbalwa, kwaye Zama ukufumana ulungelelwaniso phakathi kokuvakala unomdla kwaye unxunguphele kakhulu.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ufihle ukuba usamkhathalele, kodwa ungamoyikisi kuba usencamathele kuye. Makhe akuxelele ukuba ubenjani kwaye wenza ntoni ngoku. Oku kuya kukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba uyafuna ukuqala ngaphezulu ngayo, kwaye Ukuba uziva ngathi nobabini nitshintshe kakhulu, musani ukuzama ukuziqinisekisa ukuba isenokusebenza okanye inyanzelise ukuba iqhubeke.
Yithi ndlela-ntle kwidrama
Usenokuba nomsindo okanye wenzakaliswe kukwahlukana kwakho, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo leyo. Kodwa akukho sizathu sokuxoxa ngayo nayiphi na le nto ngomyalezo obhaliweyo, ngakumbi ukuba ufuna ukumbuyisa kwaye uqale ngokutsha. Sonke sisondele ekuthumeleni imiyalezo ex yethu ngomsindo ngelixa siziva ngathi iintloko zethu zinokudubula, kodwa ukushiya imiyalezo enomsindo okanye eyenzakalisayo ayizukunceda ityala lakho.
Nokuba awuvumelani naye ngezona zizathu ziphambili zokwahlukana, zama ukuhlala uzolile kwaye uzimisele ukuthetha ngezinto ngobuqu. eziza kukunika ithuba lokuxelela ingxelo yeli bali kwaye uziqonde ngcono.
Yazi into eyenzekileyo
Ukwenza ngathi ukwahlukana akuzange kwenzeke kunokubonakala njengenketho elula (kwaye uyandithemba, ngeknguwe wedwa ozama ukusombulula iingxaki zabo ngokungazihoyi), kodwa ekugqibeleni ayizukusebenza kakuhle. Kubalulekile ukuba nobabini nazi izizathu zokuba kutheni ubudlelwane buphelile kwaye Banokuthetha ngayo kunye notshintsho olunokwenzeka kwixa elizayo.
Ukuba umntu wakho wakudala akabonakali enomdla wokuqhubeka nencoko nawe, unganyanzeli okanye ungene ekuphelelweni lithemba ... inokuba kokona kulungileyo ukuba wohlukene kuba xa engakuxabisi, akakufanelanga.