Akukho mntu ukuxelele ukuba izobanaphakade, kwaye ukuba bakuxelele… bakuxokisile. Akukho mntu waziyo ukuba kunokwenzekani kwixa elizayo, kwaye nangona umtshato ulunge kakhulu kwaye uyimibono yothando yothando olungunaphakade, inyani kukuba ubomi bunokuthatha amathuba amaninzi. Kubalulekile ukuba uyazi lento kwaye ukuba kuya kufuneka uqhawule umtshato okanye sele wenze njalo, ungoyisa ngokukhawuleza. Ufanele ukuphila ubomi obungcono.
Ukuphumelela kuqhawulo-mtshato akulula. Ngapha koko, inokuba yeyona nto inzima kwaye ikhathazeke okhe wajongana nayo ebomini bakho. Kodwa inyani kukuba, ukufunda izifundo ezibandakanyekileyo ekufumaneni uqhawulo-mtshato sesona sifundo sinamandla owakha wafunda.
Ukusinda kuqhawulo mtshato emva kweminyaka engama-20 okanye engama-30 sitshatile
Okokuqala, yamkele ukuba yenzekile, akukho nto imbi ngokwamkela, bubomi obu buqhubela phambili! Xa sitshatile iminyaka engama-20 okanye engama-30, Ihlala isithatha ixesha ukufikelela kumanyani wokuba umtshato wethu uphelile. Uninzi lwethu lucinga ukuba ukuba siyenze ixesha elide kangako, siya kuba silungile ubomi bethu bonke. Ngokwandayo, akunjalo.
Emva komtshato omde, siyazi ezintlokweni zethu ukuba akasekho, kodwa kusithatha ixesha elide ukubamba. Ekugqibeleni iya kuba, kodwa xa uchithe ixesha, amandla, uthando, kunye nenkxaso yomnye umntu ixesha elide, kunzima ukuyicima. Kodwa uza kunyanga, ihlala ithatha ixesha elide kunokuba sifuna. Yiba nomonde kwinkqubo.
Ungayenza
Ke xa uzibuza "Ndingadlula njani kuqhawulo mtshato?" Khumbula ukuba ukufumana uqhawulo mtshato kuxhomekeke kuwe. Ikamva lakho kwaye uya kumisela ukuba kuya kuba yintoni kwaye kuza kwenzeka ntoni. Kwaye yinto elungileyo leyo kuba unethuba lokwenza ubomi bakho bumangalisa kwaye bumangalisa kwaye yonke enye into onokuyicinga!
Ke ngoko, musa ukuvala ngokwamaqela. I-ex yakho ayisalawuli ubomi bakho, nguwe onamandla okuqhubela phambili okanye uhlale ubambekile ekoneni. Mhlawumbi ubungalindelanga uqhawulo-mtshato kuba lwenzeke ngokungalindelekanga, okanye mhlawumbi ubunqwenela ukuba kwenzeke ngenxa yokuba umtshato wakho sele uluphelisile uthando ... kodwa iseyinkqubo ekufuneka yoyisiwe kwaye idluliswe.
Ekuqaleni, xa uziva iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo ngaphakathi kuwe, ungazilahli, nokuba ziimvakalelo ocinga ukuba azilunganga njengomsindo, umsindo okanye umsindo. Yamkela ukuba uyayiva kwaye yamkele ukuba yinto eqhelekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba zonke iimvakalelo ziyimfuneko kwaye into yokuba umtshato wakho uphelile akufuneki ube sisiphelo sayo nantoni na.
Kuba nangona kubonakala ngathi kukuphela kwento, enyanisweni sisiqalo senqanaba elitsha. Isigaba esitsha apho ukhetha ukuya phambili. Ukhetha indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ukhetha yonke into elungileyo eyenzekayo kuwe. Ukuba loo mntu akasekho ebomini bakho, kungenxa yokuba bebengafanelekanga ukuba uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye namandla kolo lwalamano. Ufanele ukonwaba.